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THE SIGNIFICANCE OF PRAYER

 

- (Pro 19:14) House and riches are the inheritance of fathers: and a prudent wife is from the LORD.

 

It can sometimes be very difficult to find a suitable spouse. Many people work hard going to different meetings and occasions in the hope of finding a suitable person for themselves, someone with whom they could get along.

   Another alternative is to pray to God for a spouse. If we can ask Him for other small things, why could we not also ask Him for bigger things, such as a spouse? He can certainly carry out the search in a far better way than anybody else, even though in this situation it is also good to remember: "But seek you first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added to you." (Matt 6:33).

     However, an important thing is that when you are looking for guidance in this issue, do not be misled by all kinds of prophecies, voices, and dreams. (You should keep in mind that the first person you meet is not always the person sent by God!) These should never be the main criteria in searching for a spouse but rather our own judgment. Many have made rushed decisions. (You should also keep in mind, however, that if a person is married, he or she is certainly married "to the right one" because God does not want to separate spouses from each other.) They may rely on prophecies or other such things because they have not understood that our own judgment is the most important criteria in this area. The next statement by James Dobson is a good example of this:

 

I will never forget the miserable man who told me that he had been woken to a vivid dream in the middle of the night. It seemed to mean, "Marry Susan.” Ralph had not prayed for God's guidance, but he thought that this command came directly from the Lord. The following day, he phoned Susan (he had gone out with her only two or three times) and said, "God commanded me to marry you!” Susan knew that she should not argue with the Almighty, and she accepted. Their marriage has been a miserable one, and judging it humanly, it has proven out to be a mistake. Neither of them now believes that God spoke to Ralph in the middle of the night; it really was his own imagination running wild. (11)

 

Prayer can still be one important tool in searching for a spouse. For instance, the next couple of examples indicate very well how some have received answers to their prayers. Perhaps these examples will encourage those of you who are still searching:

 

BILLY GRAHAM: I remember two or three times when I thought I was in love. Others called it "puppy love", but to me it was real. Then one day I decided to wait for the guidance of God. I did not know then that far away in China, God was preparing a suitable young woman for me. She was suitable in regard to her temperament, and to her experiences. At the age of thirteen, she had to leave her home and to go to school in Korea. Later on she said that she could not have believed that God was preparing her for the repeated goodbyes in the future. God especially trained Ruth to be my spouse, to be suitable for those conditions to which I had been called. God has chosen someone just for you. Wait for God. Wait for the person chosen by God, then there will be no fear of failure in your marriage. (12)

 

BENNY HINN: When I worked as a traveling evangelist in 1978, I prayed to God for three years for a woman like Suzanne. I had asked the Lord to send me a wife, so that I would not have to search myself. So He did. In fact, I had given God a list of 21 things I expected from my wife. Suzanne fulfilled all 21 points and much more still. For example, I wanted a wife who would be a prayer warrior, and Suzanne has been that for as long as I have known her. (13)

 

A wise mother once advised her son to pray to the Lord for a wife he had already chosen for him. - You will certainly marry, the mother said to him, when the son, at twenty, was going into the world.  - Understand that your wife lives, and because of that start to pray for her. He obeyed, and approximately seven years later he met her. The son said that he can never thank God enough for his wife. The wise advice of his mother certainly brought about this result. (14)

 

 

 

 

 

REFERENCES:

 

1) D.L. Moody, Kristinuskon rikkaus, p.85.

2) Bill and Lynne Hybels, Rakkaudesta rakennettu (FIT TO BE TIED), p. 60

3) Bill and Lynne Hybels, Rakkaudesta rakennettu (FIT TO BE TIED), p. 61

4) Magazine Me, 1 / 2007, 25 jälkiviisautta parisuhteessa

5) Oswald J. Smith, Kutsu elämään (THE CHALLENGE OF LIFE), p.36.

6) Magazine Me, 1 / 2007, 25 jälkiviisautta parisuhteessa

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11) James Dobson, Nuoruuden kynnyksellä (PREPARING FOR ADOLESCENCE), p. 81

12) Billy Graham, Avioliitto ja kotimme (THE CHRIST-CENTERED HOME), p.28-29.

13) Benny Hinn, Tule Pyhä Henki (WELCOME, HOLY SPIRIT), p.82.

14) Poul Madsen, Avioliiton ihanteet (HÖGA IDEAL), p. 40

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Jari Iivanainen

 

 




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