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Children and society
Statistics show an increase in child nausea all the time. The reason is the selfishness of adults in the area of sexuality and the changed morality of society.
This article reflects on the decline in the position of children, which has been affected by legislation and the selfish behavior of adults. It highlights the main negative milestones and currents that have affected their position over the past fifty years. However, I will first point out a few facts about how the position of children has been deteriorating all the time. It is well indicated by a couple of quotes that are 24 years apart. They show how, in the early 1990s, the position of children had already deteriorated, but 24 years later the situation is many times worse
Children's distress and problems are increasing. One reason may be the recession of recent years. More and more families are visiting family counseling centers seeking help for their children's restlessness, antisocial behavior, unusual disruptiveness, low mood and maladjustment. A typical client is a 7-8 year old boy who is disobedient, aggressive, restless, pilfers and harasses others. Children have to be alone too much. A 10-year-old child may be contemplating suicide. (Helsingin news 16.12.1996) Almost a billion euros will soon be used in institutional care for children and youth Children's problems have escalated dramatically since the early 1990s
The expenses arising from institutional and family care in child welfare are currently increasing by more than 10% per year. This year, institutional and family care for children and the young will cost around EUR 670 million. If the sum continues to increase, it will exceed the billion-euro limit in five years. The number of children in institutional care has doubled since the early 1990s. Problems with children have increased to such an extent that most custody decisions are now urgent. There are many reasons why more and more children are in institutional care: drugs and alcohol, crime, mental health problems and unemployment. Inequality reigns in society, and the number of poor families with children has tripled. The institutional care of one child can cost up to EUR 100,000 per year while proactive supporting measures in outpatient care could be offered with a couple of thousand euros. (Newspaper Etelä-Suomen Sanomat, 31 October 2010)
In addition, I will highlight a few news that show the direction of development in society. They clearly show how bad behavior towards others and selfishness have clearly increased in a few decades. It is often said that we are going in a better direction, but that is not true. People behave worse than before:
Violence experienced by municipal employees has increased The job barometer of the Ministry of Employment and the Economy (TEM) shows that violence experienced by municipal employees and the threat of it have increased drastically in less than ten years. Last year, almost half of municipal employees observed violence or the threat of it. More than 20 percent experienced violence themselves or the threat of it. In 2008, the corresponding figures were just under 30 percent and more than 10 percent... (Etelä-Suomen sanomat 15.2.2017) … As a professional of healt care, I bring to your attention the behavior of patients. When I was on call in the central hospital in the emergency room in 1974, it didn’t even come to mind that a patient would be violent or make threats. Today it occurs continuosly in the emergency room. They must have learned it from somewhere. So what happens, when no one (from Finnish people) doesn’t want to serve – or teach? With the loss of discipline, we have also lost civilized behavior. Restoration of discipline is simple, if you will. The will seems to be directed towards adapting to the consequences of indiscipline. More resources, more resources, more debt. Well, that is what the undisciplined policymakers will do. Jyrki Joensuu, a specialist doctor in general medicine and psychiatry, Lahti (Etelä-Suomen sanomat 17.10.2016 / Lukijalta [Etelä-Suomen sanomat 17.10.2016 / from the reader])
A fourth quite recent article or its heading also refers to current day (Etelä-Suomen Sanomat 23.10.2016). It shows, how teachers are under pressure due to students and their parents. The article then tells, among other things, how 74,4% of teachers thought that the behavior of students had gotten worse.
The heading of the front page: School: ESS poll reveals, teachers have subjected to violence, vandalism, threats and parents’ rage
The poll that the teachers took part in: How do you think the behavior of students has changed over the last few years? 2,6% it has gotten better 23,1% it has stayed the same 74,4% it has gotten worse
The poll of OAJ: Students are the worst bullies to teachers in the whole country according to the poll 50% of elementary school teachers have experienced bullying over the last year.
Sex without commitment. Then back to the kids we're supposed to be talking about. The former news articles told how the well-being of children and teens has diminished and how their bad behavior in schools has only increased. (ESS also reported on 20.11.2013 about the direction of development: "Violence among children is becoming more common...The aggressiveness of young children has increased in Finland".). Also, when they become adults, they still misbehave. This bad behavior has been increasing all the time as the previous news showed. What causes the increased worsened state of children and their bad behavior? I am convinced that it is due to abandoning God and Christian values, which began in the 1960s. The following facts illustrate the direction we are headed to:
• Unmarried couples living together were still called “wolf couples” in Finland in the 1950s. Furthermore, only 5 % of children were born outside of marriage up until the end of the 1960s. This shows how Christian teaching and the permanence of marriage were still respected during our grandparents’ time. It also meant that most of the children were allowed to grow up in an intact family where both parents were present.
• These days more than 50 % of children are born outside of marriage to a situation where the parents are not fully committed to each other. More and more children grow up in single parent families, which in some areas is the most common family form. It is especially common to have an absent father.
The following quotation from a book shows the importance of having both parents in the family. The quote tells about children who have problems in school. Most often the reason is the absence of the father:
When I was speaking at a certain men's camp in Hume Lake in California, I mentioned that the average father spends only three minutes of quality time with his child a day. After the meeting, one man questioned my information. He scolded, "You preachers only say things. According to the latest research, the average father doesn't spend even three minutes daily with his children, but 35 seconds." I believe him because he worked as a school inspector in central California. Actually, he gave me another startling statistic. In a certain school district in California there were 483 students in special education. None of those students had a father at home. In a certain area on the outskirts of Seattle, 61% of children live without a father. The absence of a father is a curse nowadays. (1)
Here are a few more comments to illustrate how important it is to have both biological parents present in the family. The presence of parents is the best option for children. Other options are not as good.
David Poponoe, sociologist, Rutgers University: Social science research hardly ever achieves sure results. However, in my three decades of work as a social scientist, I have come to know few sets of facts where the weight of evidence is so crucially on one side: overall, families with two (biological) parents are better for a child than single-parent or blended families. (2)
Research clearly shows that the structure of the family matters for children and that they are best supported by a family structure, that has two biological parents in marriage leading the family, and that the parents' level of conflict is low. Children in single-parent families, children born to unmarried mothers, and children in blended or cohabiting families are at greater risk of developing in a bad direction... That is why it is important, for the child, to promote strong and stable marriages between biological parents. (3)
If we were asked to design a system to ensure all children’s basic needs are being taken care of, we would probably end up somewhere, what is similar to the ideal of having two parents. In theory, this kind of plan does not only ensure that the children get two adult’s time and resources, it also provides a controlling and balancing system, which promotes high-class parenthood. Both parent’s biological relationship with the child increases the probability that the parents are able to identify themselves with the child and are ready to make sacrifices for the child. It also decreases the probability of the parents exploiting the child. (4)
It has been cogently showcased that children do not flourish, despite good physical care if they are being held in impersonal institutions, and that separation from the mother – especially during certain periods – is very damaging to the child. Typical implications of institution care are mental retardation, indifference, regressing and even death, when a sufficient surrogate mother is not available. (5)
The most important reason for the increase in children's malaise can therefore be considered to be the crumbling of the concept of marriage. This development, the sexual revolution, began in the late 1960s. That's when people emerged who emphasized, not the amount of sex, but the notion that it is possible to have sexual intercourse without commitment and marriage. The matter was defended by saying that "there is nothing wrong with it if both people love each other". This issue was brought up by the value liberals of the time, who gained space in the media and who appeared in the name of love, just as new moral concepts are now being justified. What has been and what is the consequence if a child is born into such a situation where the parents are not committed to each other? It usually means the following options:
1. The happiest is of course the option where the parents immediately bond with each other and the child is born into a home where he/she has both parents. 2. Another possibility is that the dating couple separates, but the child is nevertheless born and lives with the other parent. More and more family models are a single mother with her children, so that the father is absent from the family. In some areas, almost half of the families may be single-parent families. 3. A third common option is abortion, which is actually killing of children, although some argue otherwise. Such people lie to themselves. With the help of modern technology, it is possible to see how fetuses aged 8-12 weeks, when most abortions are performed, have the same body parts as an adult and a newborn. The so-called sexual revolution and the related free sex relationships are therefore a major cause of children's suffering. It is difficult for the children who are born if they do not have a home ready when they come into this world and the parents are not properly committed to each other. This is easy to understand. It does not require great wisdom. The proponents of the new morality have not taken this into account. The most important thing for them has been their own pleasure, not the children's best. We are still looking at a quote about how the development started in the late 1960s. Matti Joensuu, who worked in family counseling, tells how he saw the change in attitudes. Groups appeared - usually young people - who supported free sexual relations and cohabitation. The same groups also demanded free abortion and supported homosexual relations, so the seeds for the current development were sown then. They received a lot of media publicity for their opinions, and this had an effect on changing attitudes in society. Now we get to reap the harvest of what these people accomplished.
(...) In the student world, those who demanded justification of sexual relationships were the ones blowing their trombones loudly. They insisted, for instance, that boys and girls should be allowed to live together in university dormitories even though they were not married. It seemed that the Teen League had been taken over by new leaders who proclaimed not only socialism and school democracy, but also the idea of free sexual relations. All in all, what was new was that reference groups had formed that spoke much more openly about gender issues than had previously been customary in public, accusing society and the Church of applying double standards. The tone of the conversation was to a large extent ethical. Morality was considered evil. It was reproached. At the same time, however, new morality was proclaimed, often in a very moralistic and intolerant manner. Whereas in the past there was talk of understanding the sexual behaviour of young people, some groups declared now that it is right to have casual sexual relations. The institution of marriage and real genuine love were even contrasted. Couples living unlegalized cohabitation were interviewed in public as some kind of heroes of a new morality who dared to stand up against the morality of a degenerate bourgeois society. Similarly, homosexuals were interviewed and free abortion was called for... One feature, especially in television programs, was that very young people, with ideas and strong opinions, often appeared as experts. However, their life experiences were limited to the moods of their own age group. They could not yet have professional experience. (6)
Then to political decisions. We often make the mistake of not learning from the past, but we shouldn't fall into this. It is worth studying the past in the sense that we can avoid the same mistakes of the past. So one good example from the past is the Soviet family experiment. It happened in the last century and was implemented immediately after the communists came to power. This family experiment affected 200 million people. What was implemented in this family experiment? In it, e.g. divorce was made easier, abortion was legalized and it was taught that there should not be any obstacles to free sexual relations. However, the consequences of this were catastrophic, both economically and socially. It led to an increase in crime, an increase in abortions, a disintegration of families and an increase in the number of fatherless and homeless children (just as the number of children taken into care has increased in modern times). When false teaching was first sown, it later had to be reaped as problems in society. Matti Joensuu tells about this experiment. Bolds have been added to the text:
Very extensive experiments connected to the family institution was carried out in the Soviet Union since the revolution. When in Oneida Community it was a question of 300 persons, in the Soviet Union it is a question of at least 200 million people who also represent perhaps 170 nationalities. (…) In 1917, in the second month of the new governmental power, laws concerning marriage were published. Marriage in church was replaced with civil marriage. Divorce was permitted if one of the spouses asked for it. The following year these laws were complemented by imposing the birth of a child as the basis of marriage. There was to be no difference between children born in or outside of wedlock. (…) A more radical change came into effect in Russia in 1926 and immediately after also in other parts of the Soviet Union. According to this change, the registration of marriage was not necessary. (…) Thus, none of the responsibilities and rights of the spouses or children were dependent upon the registration of the marriage. In 1926, divorcing was made even more easy. Either both spouses or one of them could apply for divorce without giving any justification. (…) At first, there were no laws concerning sexual behavior. In 1920, abortion was legalized. Another law made adultery, bigamy, and incest acts not requiring punishment. The prevailing attitude was that there were to be no hindrances to free sexual relationships and no reactionary morals. Attempts to take contraceptives into use were taken and the idea was to abolish all shame concerning illegitimacy. (…) The consequence was that divorces became more common (…) the number of illegitimate children increased. (…) The number of abortions, according to some statements, ‘horribly’ increased. Women were in many cases forced to choose between their social status or maternity. (…) When the number of abortions increased, the birthrate in towns decreased. Worried statements concerning this were presented already in 1926. It was assessed in 1922 that the number of homeless children rose to about nine million. (…) Obviously, however, the breaking up of family relations caused an increase in juvenile delinquency. Many newspapers wrote about this phenomenon, called hooliganism, in the late 20s and in the early 30s. In 1929, hooliganism was deemed the most difficult problem. The number of juvenile delinquents was said to have doubled between the years 1929 and 1935. Groups of young people hanged around the towns and did all sorts of bad acts, such as attacked helpless citizens. There was talk about vandalism, thefts, burglaries, rapes, even murders that had increased over a short period of time. A turning point in the family politics of the Soviet Union took place in 1934-35. (…) There is no need to clarify here in what way the official way of thinking changed. The main point is that the social defects and decay were acknowledged and powerful propaganda against hooliganism, irresponsible sexual behavior, and abortions was begun. (7)
A Swedish longitudinal study compared 65,000 children from single-parent families with 921,257 children who grew up with both biological parents. The study covered almost all children who were born in Sweden between 1973 and 1985. At the end of the study, the oldest children were 26 years old and the youngest 14 years old. According to the study, serious mental illness, suicides, suicide attempts and illnesses related to the use of alcohol are twice as common among children from single-parent families compared to children who grew up with a biological father and mother. Serious drug use is three times more common among those raised in single-parent families and four times more common among boys. Even death from accidents and violence was more common among children from single-parent families. (Ringbäck Weitoft et al. 2003.) When the study was published in a prestigious journal, some criticized it for blaming single parents, when saying, that their children were particularly vulnerable to serious problems. The head of the study, Gunilla Ringbäck Weitoft, however, explained that the purpose of the researchers was to improve the status of children in single-parent families: "We were surprised that the connections were so unambiguous, even though we took into account a number of background factors. But the purpose of our research was to try to improve the conditions of children of single parents, not to point the finger at single parents." (9)
Financial expenses. In the meantime, a small digression into the economy. When the supporters of the new morality have brought forward their new views, it has become expensive for society financially. In the beginning of the article, the news was reported: Institutional care for children and young people will soon cost a billion, Children's problems have escalated drastically since the beginning of the 1990s... Institutional care for one child costs up to 100,000 euros per year... (Etelä-Suomen Sanomat, 31.10.2010). Similarly, Aamulehti reported on March 3, 2013: A marginalised young person costs 1.8 million. If even one is brought back into society, the result is positive. That is, the more families break up and the more wrong models are favored, the more housing subsidies, income subsidies and other subsidies have to be paid to correct the situation. The following quote shows the point:
Divorce is costly for many
Economist Pasi Sorjonen of Nordea Bank wonders why the financial impact of divorces is not discussed much even though divorces are very common and the financial impact caused by a divorce can be great for the people involved. A study by Nordea Bank suggests that a divorce can lower the living standard of a family even more than unemployment. It is a very extensive social phenomenon: almost half of marriages now end in divorce. "Divorces are very costly to the society," says Executive Director Heljä Sairisalo of the Finnish single-parent family association. According to Sairisalo, as many as 25% of all single parents must live on relief. Among the entire Finnish population, 10% live on relief, and the figure is even lower for families with both parents. In a survey done by Nordea Bank last year, only slightly over a third of families with children estimated that they would be able to live in their old home when one of the parents moves out. A parent living with the children alone needs almost as much room as a family with both parents: after all, the number of bedrooms needed will not change. (...) "Fixed costs will increase," Sorjonen points out. Sorjonen also pays attention to the use of time: a single parent has to handle the transport of the children alone because there is nobody to help. This will lower the everyday standard of living and, according to Sorjonen, can even be a threat to the single parent's ability to work: many day-care centres are not flexible in terms of the parents' working hours. (Newspaper Etelä-Suomen Sanomat, 25 January 2011)
A fairly recent newspaper article tells about the same thing. Housing allowances have grown at an accelerating pace in the 2000s, and for example in 2016 over 917 million euros were paid in general housing allowance throughout the country. Part of the reason for the increase in subsidies is also the fact that politicians removed rent regulation from Finland twenty years ago:
The rate of giving allowances is accelerating in Finland… Housing allowance is being paid at a more and more rapid rate. In November Kela paid public housing allowances for over 93 million euros, when the same amount last year in November was a little under 87 million euros and in the year before that it was 65 million euros. The total sum of the money that goes into public housing allowances has doubled in the 21th century.. (Etelä-Suomen Sanomat, 8.1.2017) Gender neutral marriage and children. As stated, children's problems have clearly increased in a few decades. It is mainly due to the crumbling of the marriage. This development started in the late 1960s, the so-called with the sexual revolution. It was initially driven by liberal journalists. After that, it influenced the politicians so that the legislation was changed in the same direction as what happened in the Soviet family experiment before. What about modern times? Now many are marching for gay relationships, just as they used to march for free sexual relations or abortion. Many certainly sincerely think that they are helping these people who have an interest in the same sex. The marchers do not take into account that it is question of a sinful lust, which often stems from traumatic interpersonal experiences - including sexual abuse. At least many homosexuals themselves deny that it is a congenital characteristic and may refer to events in their lives. How does this matter relate to children? People of the same sex cannot have children together. However, it doesn't end there, children can be obtained either through artificial methods (fertilization treatments, womb rental) or through temporary heterosexual relationships. A child can also be born through them. What makes it problematic for the children is precisely the fact that the child is born into a situation where he lacks at least one of his biological parents at home from the start. A child is made fatherless or motherless just to fulfill the wishes of adults. The children's longing for their father or mother is insulted and considered a trivial matter, although it is known how abandoned children feel the longing of a missing parent, father or mother. For example, television programs have often told about how children want to find their biological parent, whom they have not met and who has disappeared from their lives. They have a longing to find their own roots and to meet the biological father or mother who is missing from them. This has become more and more common nowadays, e.g. due to increased differences. Therefore, having children, so-called in a gender-neutral marriage is always problematic because the child has to be separated from the other biological parent from the start. It is the selfishness of adults towards a child, even if it is claimed otherwise. The freedoms of adults are placed before the basic rights of children. The following quotation refers to the subject. It shows how gender is considered an important factor for adults, but not for children. It is not considered important that the child has parents of different sexes. Anthony Esolen has drawn attention to this inconsistency, where adults' feelings and desires are more important than children's:
We cannot say at the same time: 'The sex of the child's parents does not matter', and immediately afterwards say that the sex of an adult bed partner matters so much that there is no way he can adapt his lifestyle to nature. The son does not need a father, because gender does not matter. But his mother needs a 'wife', and there is no way she can be expected to take a man for herself, because in this case, gender matters more than anything else in this world. (10)
What about the concepts of love and equality that usually come up when discussing gender-neutral marriage? Is it really like this, i.e. is it a question of self-sacrificing love or is it actually a question of selfishness, because the children's right to a father and mother is rejected? Robert Oscar Lopez, who grew up in a lesbian home, has drawn attention to such rhetoric:
We often hear that same sex couples have loving homes, and that they love children. This doesn’t convince me, because love means that you make sacrifices for other people, instead of expecting other people to make sacrifices for you. If you are a homosexual and love the child, you either sacrifice your homosexuality and raise the child in a home, where he or she has a mother and a father, or you give up your dream of being a parent and accept that adopted children are given to homes, where they will have a mother and a father. If a child is an orphan, disabled or abandoned into a government institution, a child like this needs a mother and a father more than anyone, as he or she needs stability and normality due to the trauma he or she experienced. You cannot ask a child for your sake to sacrifice something as universal as mom and dad. (11) In France many homosexuals themselves have taken a stand in the matter. They believe that the gender-neutral marriage law violates the rights of children to have both mother and father. That is why they oppose gender-neutral marriage:
Atheist and homosexual Bongibault has noted in an interview (Wendy Wright, French Homosexuals Join Demonstration Against Gay Marriage): Before anything else, we must protect the child. In France the aim of marriage is not to protect love between two people. Marriage is especially designed to provide a family for a child. The most heavy research to date – indicates clearly that children, who grow up with homosexual parents, have struggles while growing up. (12)
Jean-Pierre Delaume-Myard: Am I a homosexual homophobe… I am against gender neutral marriage, because I defend a child’s right to have a father and a mother. (13)
Jean-Marc Veyron la Croix: Everyone has their limitations: the fact that I don’t have a child and that I miss a child does not give me the right to take the love of a mother from a child. (14)
Hervé Jourdan: A child is a fruit of love and he or she must stay as the fruit of love. (15)
Fertility treatments for single women fall into the same category as the previous matter, and some journalists and politicians have also pushed it. It means that a child is deliberately made fatherless from early childhood. From the beginning of his/her life, he/she lacks one of his/her parents, i.e. his/her father. So what is the consequence of the child being deprived of the opportunity to know his own father? Many children born this way have openly talked about their identity problems and longing to meet their biological father (sperm donor), whom they have never seen. The following quote and example tells more about the topic. Journalists and politicians pushing for a new morality have Forgotten the children's point of view in this matter:
Katrina Clark was born to a mother, who used artifical fertilization and an unknown donor. The mother was always open about it to her daughter and they had a close and loving relationship. Growing up, however, the daughter began to struggle with identity issues and started to observe her friends, who had both parents. At 20 years old she writes in Washington Post column: “Then a feeling of emptiness took over me. I realized I was an oddity in some sense. I would never have a father. I finally understood, what it meant to be a child produced with the help of an unnamed donor, and I hated it.” (16) Polygamy is something that has been advocated by some journalists and politicians and has been common in some countries – especially Muslim countries where a man has had the right to have more than one wife. This issue has been defended and pushed especially by the representatives of the green movement. However, it has been found that this practice brings inequality and problems to society. First of all, if someone did not intend to take another wife or husband when they got married, there is no guarantee that their spouse will end up with the same decision. A marriage that was originally entered into between two people can become a union of three people, even if one of the original spouses does not want it. This kind of unfavorable situation can be very possible and in Muslim countries it is an everyday reality. A Muslim man's wife can never be sure whether her husband will take another or a third wife into the family. She lives in an insecure situation because she cannot be sure of her own position as a married wife. What about social problems as a result of polygamy? The following quote suggests how this practice may lead to crime, violence, poverty and inequality in society:
According to anthropologists, in most societies at least some men have been polygamous, even when the majority of the men have had to settle for one wife. Rivalry between men in cultures accepting of polygamy leads to crime, violence, and poverty, as well as to an increased inequality between the sexes, when compared to societies that have institutionalized monogamy. So is claimed by the professor at British Columbia University, Joseph Henrich. (17)
For children, polygamy is difficult. Turkish human rights fighter Halide Edib Adivar told about a century ago how his family life changed when his father took home a second wife. It brought home the destructive atmosphere of mutual distrust and power struggle:
... In the case of polygamy, the suffering extends to three large groups of people - children, servants and relatives - to three whole groups whose interests are more or less opposed to each other due to the nature of the case, and who live in a destructive climate of mutual mistrust and power struggle. In my own childhood, polygamy and its consequences produced a very ugly and distressing effect. The constant tension in our home made every simple family gathering feel like physical pain, and the awareness of that pain hardly ever left me. The wives' rooms were opposite each other, and my father took turns visiting them. (18)
Teaching about the wrong sex. One thing that wasn't mentioned much in the media until a few decades ago is the teaching that a person can be born the wrong sex. This is a relatively new thing that has been perpetuated by reformist media representatives and, of course, trans people and organizations like SETA (just as they perpetuate the idea that homosexuality is innate, even though this has been debunked by many conferences on the subject, in twin studies, and even though many homosexuals themselves deny the innateness of the matter). So what is the issue in this case? We don't need to belittle anyone's inner experiences because they are personal. However, trans stories are about a very common problem: a person's dissatisfaction with himself. Dissatisfaction with one's gender is no different than someone being dissatisfied with their appearance, the smallness of their muscles, or being too fat. For example, eating disorders such as anorexia nervosa are a good example of this. A person can consider himself too fat, even if he is already quite thin. So the fault is not in his body, but that the person does not accept himself and his body. The same problem can be seen in the lives of trans people. So why discuss this matter? The problem is that it confuses many children or young people, and many may as a result undergo irreversible surgeries - healthy organs are amputated - such as mastectomies, which they later regret. Many people who have done this have later expressed the wish that the psychiatrists and doctors who treated them had tried to make them understand the deeper psychological factors that caused them to reject their own bodies and gender. Several of them regretted that experts supported their gender confusion instead of addressing the psychological factors. This topic has also been discussed on the Internet, e.g., by a blogger called Musta Orkidea:
“Some of my body parts have been removed. I have no breasts, because they were removed, and there are scars in my lower stomach that were wounds, through which other parts of my body have been removed, parts that were naturally a part of me. My face shape has changed. Hair grows on my face. My voice has changed into something completely unrecognizable… I cannot conceive a child, and I am entirely sterile even as a woman… My current name is not my real name. My identity is a made-up identity and I have the wrong papers. I am not a man but a mutilated woman… For years, I have lived in a lie, and made myself think that I am something I’m not… I have crossed a line and there is no coming back. I can never get back something that has once been cut off. Sex change surgeries are irreversible. Once the body is broken, you can never repair it. I am completely unfixable. Nothing can be done… It is not possible to be born in the wrong body. The human body has existed long before there has been any awareness, or formation of identity. The body and mind are not separate from each other, nor do they exist as separate or singular entities. They are always one. The thought of the possibility that one could be the opposite gender on the inside is ridiculous. Trans-sexuality is an identity disorder, and this disorder exist between the ears, not in the body. Gender is a physical quality of the body like height, shoe size, or hair color. You can't change your gender any more than you can change your race or height… Transgenderism is very similar to anorexia in every way. It is like having symptoms of the same condition but in a different form” (Musta orkidea: Viimeisen muurin takana on totuus. [The truth lies behind the last wall])
Pediatrician and president of the American Pediatric Association, Michelle Cretella, has also stated that the child's sense of reality should not be disturbed by talk about the self imprisoned in the wrong body: "The normal intellectual development and sense of reality of a preschool child is disturbed, if the false notion is instilled in him that it is possible to be imprisoned in the wrong body. This kind of indoctrinating is the worst treatment of a child" (19). Cretella characterizes directing children and young people into transgenderism as "large-scale child abuse".
Tolerant people support child murders.
- (Mark 10:19) You know the commandments, Do not commit adultery, Do not kill, Do not steal, Do not bear false witness, Defraud not, Honor your father and mother.
Narrative: Once upon a time there were two groups. Both groups spoke for human rights and love. Both of these groups also agreed that 10-year-olds were real children who should not be killed. The groups were very unanimous on this issue. Instead, the difference between the two groups appeared in their attitude towards 5-year-olds. Group 1 considered them as equal people to 10-year-old children. The members of Group 2, on the other hand, thought that the 5-year-olds were not real children but some kind of lumps of tissue. Therefore, their lives could be ended if the parents so desired. How does this relate to the topic discussed? In short, the issue of abortion is exactly the same. One group of people consider a small child in the womb to be a real person and another group does not. They think differently about this matter. However, it must be taken into account that 10-year-olds, 5-year-olds and children in the womb have the same body parts, because...
- A 10-year-old has a head, eyes, nose, mouth, hands, feet, etc. - A 5-year-old has a head, eyes, nose, mouth, hands, feet, etc. - also the child in the womb has a head, eyes, nose, mouth, hands, feet, etc. A person who has made many abortions says:
You can't have an abortion with your eyes closed. You have to make sure that everything comes out of the womb and calculate that there will be enough arms and legs, chest and brain. Then when the patient wakes up from anesthesia and asks if it was a girl or a boy, the limit of my endurance has been reached and that's when I usually walk away. - If I do a procedure where I clearly kill a living being, I think it's nonsense to talk about destroying a budding life. It is killing, and I experience it as killing.” (20)
From this it is good to move to tolerance again. As stated, many value-liberal politicians and journalists want to present themselves as tolerant, progressive and moderate. However, it fails in this one issue, i.e. they support killing children. They are comfortable with the fact that unwanted children can be killed. However, one may ask, is there any difference in this compared to how Hitler killed people in the gas chambers or how the Canaanites burned their children in the fire that raised God's wrath? The only way to deny this is to deny that the child in the womb is a real person, as the following quote shows.
If it is so that a developing fetus is morally equivalent to a child, then abortion is morally equivalent to infanticide. Only a few think that the government should let parents decide on their own, whether they want to be responsible for killing their child… Those, who are willing to defend women’s right to abortion, should make a statement on the argument that a developing fetus is equivalent to a human being, and then try to demonstrate, why the argument is wrong. It is not enough to say that the law should be neutral when it comes to moral and religious questions. Defending the right to abortion is equally as unneutral as demanding to ban it. Both parties await for an answer for this moral and religious dispute, which lies in the background. (21)
What about the future? When we have talked about children, the next step may be that pedophilia will gradually become accepted. People begin to claim how it is also a form of sexuality among the others, which is why “we should be understanding towards it”. In the same way, love will be used to bring this matter up - as already happened in connection with the sexual revolution ("there is nothing wrong if two people have sexual intercourse, as long as they love each other"), or in connection with homosexuality. Therefore, it is very likely that soon programs will be shown on TV that depict sexual relations, initially between adults and young people, and later already between adults and children, in a positive light. This has already happened abroad. One example is the Netherlands. There was already years ago a "pedophile party" that brought this matter up. In addition, Amsterdam in the Netherlands has been the capital of child porn production in Europe. Similarly, Amsterdam is a pioneer in other evils. The UN has listed Amsterdam as the number one destination for human trafficking; The Netherlands was the first to legalize euthanasia, Amsterdam is the drug center of Europe and Amsterdam has also been considered the capital of homosexuals So it is possible that, when Finland and other countries have been following the Netherlands the whole time, especially in the issue of homosexuality and bringing euthanasia to the fore, we will soon see similar emphases that have already occurred in the Netherlands. This is very possible. So I really have nothing against homosexuals, but I see that when homosexuality is first accepted, other distortions soon follow. Well-known homosexual magazines and executives in homosexual movement abroad have brought this issue, i.e. pederasty and pedophilia, to the fore years ago, as the following quotes show:
This is usually considered to be an exaggeration and an attempt at intimidating people. Homosexual movements are also opposed to comparing homosexuality with paedophilia. This is not an issue that can be lightly set aside, however. Most regular homosexuals are not even familiar with what the international homosexual movement has done or with the discussions that are currently taking place in academic homosexual publications. (22)
Although the things that they talk about with each other are not widely spread, they are not secrets and surely can be distributed to wide audiences. Do the supporters of abortion, e.g., publicly deny their hostility towards motherhood? Publish Eileen L. McDoagh’s description of an unborn child as an aggressive intruder, who is to blame for the precnancy. Do homosexual activists publicly deny the link between homosexuality and pedofilia? Publish the double copy of Journal of Homosexuality magazine about the topic “The generational love between men”, which is full of articles praising “the loving pedofile”. It can be said that every societal movement has embarrassing allies. Absolutely, but in this case there is a fundamental asymmetry. Proper societal movements reject those, who aspire to be their friends, but say bad things. Movements advocating for immorality take them alongside them because they do not consider what they say to be bad. This speaks loudly if we only have ears to hear. (23)
Small glance at alcohol policies. The previous chapters referred to two things that have put children in a more vulnerable state: poor legislation and adults’ increased selfishness. We discussed, e.g., how sexual revolution and loosened divorce legislation have made things worse for children. More and more children have had to grow up in families or institutions without one or both parents. It has not been good for their development. Other factors have, of course, also influenced poor behavior in society. One of the major causes not dealt in this text is the media. Shows in TV have constantly become more violent and give bad examples of sexuality. What will be God’s judgment for these producers and media executives, as they have spread so much evil in society? Only God knows. The following words of Jesus are worth keeping in mind. The judgment for those who have mislead others is always greater than other people:
- (Matt 18:6,7) But whoever shall offend one of these little ones which believe in me, it were better for him that a millstone were hanged about his neck, and that he were drowned in the depth of the sea. 7 Woe to the world because of offenses! for it must needs be that offenses come; but woe to that man by whom the offense comes!
- (Luke 12:47,48) And that servant, which knew his lord's will, and prepared not himself, neither did according to his will, shall be beaten with many stripes. 48 But he that knew not, and did commit things worthy of stripes, shall be beaten with few stripes. For to whomsoever much is given, of him shall be much required: and to whom men have committed much, of him they will ask the more.
One area that is relevant to children is also alcohol laws, especially, loosening the regulations. For there are hundreds of thousands of people more or less addicted to alcohol in our society. They are unable to control their drinking and under the influence of alcohol they do things that they would not do in a normal state. A situation where the parents of the family are alcoholics or maybe drug addicts is really not an ideal option for children. Children are easily neglected,, or the whole family may fall apart due to excessive alcohol use. It is easy to understand how it complicates children's normal life and weakens their sense of security. I also took a stand on the subject in the newspaper. One person, "Mr. X" (the real name is not important), demanded more loosened alcohol policies, talking, e.g., about moral politicians and regulation-Finland. His point of view is in a way correct, but often legislation and restrictions prevent many harms. Likewise, society's expenses are reduced. The article was published in Etelä-Suomen sanomat magazine on July 24, 2018. The name of the person mentioned in the writing has been changed:
Alcohol problems have wide-ranging repercussions Regulation: The harms of the addiction of heavy consumers of alcohol are also visible in family and work life
Mr. X wrote on ESS's opinion page (20.7) about moralist politicians and regulation-Finland. He wanted freer alcohol legislation and increased availability of alcohol. He also mentioned that "responsible people are regulated from all directions into a rather cramped stall, because five percent of the people don't know how to live cleanly". It's just that even though alcohol is only a problem for 5-10 percent of the population, it has an effect on others as well. 5-10 percent in itself means hundreds of thousands of heavy consumers addicted to alcohol, but when families, employers and other relatives are added to this, the figure increases to close to a million. Mr. X should also familiarize himself with the previous statistics. Whenever the availability of alcohol has been made easier, it has increased the problems. This happened in Finland in 1969 and in Sweden in 1955. When medium beer came to stores in Finland in 1969, crime increased by 27 percent and the growth continued in the following years. In addition, a study was conducted in Norway in the 1970s, which found that an increase of one liter in per capita alcohol consumption (converted to pure alcohol) produced a 16 percent increase in violence. The measure was the number of people convicted in violent crimes. Such facts cannot be downplayed, as Mr. X does. It would be good to listen to those who have practical experience in the field. Another thing is the costs caused by alcohol, which each of us pays. Kauppalehti reported (September 16, 2011) how "alcohol causes direct costs of approximately one billion euros per year to society. The indirect costs are up to five billion euros". Such sums cannot be underestimated. In addition, when Mr. X wants to break Alko's monopoly, it means a decrease in government tax revenues. This proposal by Mr. X means either an increase in taxes or more debt to society. It's not worth doing stupid politics!
It had only been a month from the previous writing, when the same newspaper reported on the effect of the new alcohol legislation. This law entered into force in Finland in the same year, and it affected e.g. that the police's alarm duties increased by 12,000. This shows how alcohol legislation has an effect on people's behavior.
Police: The new alcohol law has increased alarm duties The new alcohol law has increased the police's alarm duties, the police estimated on Monday. Police alert missions increased by more than 12,000 between January and July, and according to the Police Board, the increase is explained by the changes in the alcohol law. Starting in March, the new law gave all restaurants the right to serve alcohol until four in the morning. Alcohol can be drunk in the restaurant until five in the morning. The new law also liberalized the opening hours of restaurants. In the past, restaurants had to be closed at four o'clock at the latest. In practice, the change has been seen in the fact that some restaurants currently close their doors only at five in the morning. According to the Police Board, alcohol-related police duties are clearly focused on the time from five o'clock onwards until eight in the morning. Alarm tasks concern, among other things, intoxicated persons, assaults, disruptive behavior and vandalism. The number of alarm tasks has increased the most between five and six in the morning. For example, the number of abuse cases increased by almost 65 percent during that period compared to March-July of the previous year. On the other hand, arrests of intoxicated persons by the police are in a downward direction. According to the Police Board, this is partly due to the fact that many municipalities have increased the number of survival stations. The new alcohol law has also affected police shifts. - Police departments have had to shift their resources to the late night and early morning hours, which increases costs and workload, police director Sanna Heikinheimo from the Police Board says. (ESS 21.8.2018)
What about drugs? Value liberals often push for free access to mild drugs, but that has its problems, both for adults and children. The so-called gateway theory is still true, i.e. it is easy to drift from mild drugs to harder drugs. About 80-90% of all heroin addicts have started with mild drugs. When they don't work and their effect decreases, they want stronger substances. Why do you have to intentionally go to a society where it's easy to drift into drug use? In addition, if children are born to drug users, they are more likely to have diseases than other children. This is also the case with children whose parents drink alcohol. For example, in Finland, hundreds of children are born with serious illnesses due to their parents' alcohol use. Another problem for children is that parental drug addiction and drug use are not beneficial for children, just like alcohol use is not. It is more difficult for drug-addicted parents to take care of their children. Drug and alcohol addictions are also a major reason for the increase in society's expenses. The more drug addicts and alcoholics there are, the more families break up, people are marginalized, excluded from working life, and the number of illnesses increases. All these things are financially expensive. It has been estimated that in Finland, for example, alcohol directly costs society a billion euros a year and indirectly up to five billion euros (Kauppalehti 16.9.2011). Hundreds of thousands are addicted to alcohol.
An example of the influence of worldview. When wrongdoing against children and other people occurs in the world, the underlying worldview affects a person's behavior. If someone does not believe in the moral law that binds everyone and in the judgment after this life, his motivation to do good is probably weaker than a person who believes in both things. This also manifests itself in such matters as human trafficking, slavery and child labor, illegal arrests and forced prostitution (cf. 1 Tim 1:9,10: Knowing this, that the law is not made for a righteous man, but for the lawless and disobedient, for the ungodly and for sinners, for unholy and profane, for murderers of fathers and murderers of mothers, for murderers, for fornicators, for them that defile themselves with mankind, for enslavers, for liars, for perjured persons, and if there be any other thing that is contrary to sound doctrine / Exodus 21:16: And he that steals a man, and sells him, or if he be found in his hand, he shall surely be put to death.). It is estimated that there are victims of these things up to millions or tens of millions of people. Most of the victims are women and children, especially in the sex industry. Such phenomena are also possible in Western countries, especially in those countries that have legalized prostitution, pimping and brothels. In them, human trafficking and sex slavery are possible, because these activities are easily disguised as legal business. Why then do injustices and real human rights violations occur in the world? One big reason is in the worldview, as already stated. If people do not believe in the Bible's teaching that they will have to give an account of their lives once, it is easy for them to drift into wrongdoing. Sex trafficking and related human trafficking are good examples. They are maintained by human selfishness, which manifests itself in two ways, in human lust and greed:
Lustful adults whose lust is the main thing in life. They rape young people and children because of their lust. The lifestyles of these people show that they practically have a worldview where they do not believe in judgment after this life.
- (Mark 4:18,19) And these are they which are sown among thorns; such as hear the word, 19 And the cares of this world, and the deceitfulness of riches, and the lusts of other things entering in, choke the word, and it becomes unfruitful.
- (James 1:14,15) But every man is tempted, when he is drawn away of his own lust, and enticed. 15 Then when lust has conceived, it brings forth sin: and sin, when it is finished, brings forth death.
- (2 Tim 3:1-5) This know also, that in the last days perilous times shall come. 2 For men shall be lovers of their own selves, covetous, boasters, proud, blasphemers, disobedient to parents, unthankful, unholy, 3 Without natural affection, truce breakers, false accusers, incontinent, fierce, despisers of those that are good, 4 Traitors, heady, high minded, lovers of pleasures more than lovers of God; 5 Having a form of godliness, but denying the power thereof: from such turn away.
Greed is another reason. Forced prostitution only thrives where there is greed and where it is protected by the local police. Officials who take bribes consider money more important than exploited people. In the light of the Bible, people lose their souls because of greed.
- (Isaiah 1:23) Your princes are rebellious, and companions of thieves: every one loves gifts, and follows after rewards: they judge not the fatherless, neither does the cause of the widow come to them.
- (Luke 12:15-21) And he said to them, Take heed, and beware of covetousness: for a man's life consists not in the abundance of the things which he possesses. 16 And he spoke a parable to them, saying, The ground of a certain rich man brought forth plentifully: 17 And he thought within himself, saying, What shall I do, because I have no room where to bestow my fruits? 18 And he said, This will I do: I will pull down my barns, and build greater; and there will I bestow all my fruits and my goods. 19 And I will say to my soul, Soul, you have much goods laid up for many years; take your ease, eat, drink, and be merry. 20 But God said to him, You fool, this night your soul shall be required of you: then whose shall those things be, which you have provided? 21 So is he that lays up treasure for himself, and is not rich toward God.
- (1 Tim 6:9,10) But they that will be rich fall into temptation and a snare, and into many foolish and hurtful lusts, which drown men in destruction and perdition. 10 For the love of money is the root of all evil: which while some coveted after, they have erred from the faith, and pierced themselves through with many sorrows.
In this context, it is good to bring up a small quote. In general, politicians play a key role in determining whether human trafficking and forced prostitution occur. If they allow it and pass laws in favor of it, it will be difficult to eliminate human trafficking. Instead, the right legislation and its supervision can improve the lives of thousands of people. The following quote tells exactly this. It is about two countries, or two cities. In one, there is a lot of human trafficking, but in the other, it has been possible to reduce it with legislation. The problem is that politicians don't always have a real desire to enact laws that increase fairness. It leads to human suffering:
Considering how well the Swedish model has worked against human trafficking, it is amazing that of all the other countries, only Norway and Iceland and the most recent country Ireland (October 2014) have adopted the model. According to the Swedish police, certain criminal groups that sell women on the European market have started avoiding Sweden since the law came into force. The evidence also shows that the law has had a positive, deterrent effect on male sex buyers and that the law has significantly reduced the number of sex buyers. The comparison made after the law came into force is quite interesting. It compared Stockholm and Amsterdam, where prostitution is legalized. According to Kajsa Wahlberg, who works in the Swedish police administration, in Stockholm, which has a population of 1.3 million, the number of prostitutes working on the streets is estimated at 200. In Amsterdam, which has a population of 750,000, there are 20,000 to 35,000 prostitutes on the streets. In Amsterdam, the police have actually had to close down numerous brothels to root out criminal elements. Just one year after prostitution was legalized, more than half of Dutch prostitutes were in the clutches of pimps. Wahlberg states that organized crime always follows prostitution and also brings with it money laundering and other forms of crime. He states that even if prostitution is legalized, as has been done in Holland and Germany, it will not remove the stigma that prostitutes carry with them. Wahlberg says that the only and least burdensome way to tackle prostitution and human trafficking is to change men's attitudes. Men need to stop buying sex. (24)
Closing remarks. Above, we discussed many issues that weaken children's lives. I personally consider the reason for this negative development to be that in our society there has been a strong abandonment of the Christian world of values, the sanctity of marriage, and that sex is right only between a man and a wife in marriage (1 Cor 7:2: but to avoid the sins of fornication, let each man have his own wife, and each woman has her husband). The more we go down this road, the more we can expect an increase in society's expenses as well. These things are interconnected. Then from one thing to another, i.e. everyone's relationship with God. Each of us has been guilty of wrongdoing in some area of our lives, and we certainly cannot point the finger at anyone. We should first make sure that we first focus on our own shortcomings rather than those of our neighbors. Despite everything, God has a good plan for us flawed people. He wants the best for us, and the best of His gifts is eternal life. Therefore, you who have rejected God's will until now and have not cared about Him, turn to Him! Confess the sins that come to mind and ask Jesus into your life because He has paid the full price for your sins. Through Him you can receive the gift of eternal life. You can pray, for example, in the following way:
THE PRAYER OF SALVATION: Lord, Jesus, I turn to You. I confess that I have sinned against You and have not lived according to Your will. However, I want to turn away from my sins and follow You with all my heart. I also believe that my sins have been forgiven through Your atonement and I have received eternal life through You. I thank You for the salvation that You have given me. Amen.
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