Homosexuality
and being freed from it
In the following chapters, we are going to take a look at homosexuality
and its underlying factors. We will discuss the origins of homosexuality and
whether it is possible to be freed from it, and also what the Bible says about
it. Many people might have different opinions about some of the issues brought
up, but it will still be worthwhile reading the whole text.
underlying
factors BEHIND homosexuality
People have often claimed that homosexuality is innate and that there is
nothing you can do about it. People may have claimed that some people have been
born to be homosexual and that they must just accept their identity.
However, when studying homosexuality, it has been
impossible to find even one hereditary reason for it. No gene or other
hereditary factor has been found that could cause homosexuality. Clear findings
from this area are missing.
Instead, the secret seems to lie in certain underlying
factors and special features that we will study below. These factors have been
found in many studies and interviews, and some may recognize these in
themselves (they are usually connected with relationships). Let’s have a look
at these issues:
Homosexuality
IN men
Rejection by one’s father. Maybe the most typical factor causing
homosexuality in men is the absence of a model of a warm and loving father. If
one's father has been hot-tempered, indifferent, and hostile, this can result
in the boy or the man starting to look for the approval of men, because he did
not get it from his own father. Thus, the homosexuality of men is actually
sexualizing the longing for a father (for women longing for a mother). If a man
has had a good model of a father, it will in part prevent homosexual
development. Jerry Arterburn, a former homosexual, talks about this:
Additional support and
acceptance given to a child can be enough as such. Many homosexuals have told
that they actually mainly longed for the acceptance of men. Had their fathers
changed their attitude and given their sons more attention, their whole life
could have gone in a positive direction. (1)
Other men. Almost as important a factor as the rejection of the
father is also rejection from other important men, such as brothers and
schoolmates. This rejection can deprive a boy identifying with his own gender
and thus isolate him from it. Many men have drifted into homosexual
relationships because they have found the approval and solidarity of male
friends that they did not experience before. Jerry Arterburn has told how this
affected him most of all:
I didn't change into a
full-blooded gay overnight. The change took place so gradually that I didn’t
even immediately notice it. At first, I only thought I was making friends with
these new acquaintances. I enjoyed the new friends. They seemed to understand
what I had gone through in my childhood. (…) I wanted to find out
whether homosexuality was the reason why I felt as I did. I stopped dating
girls and started to spend my time with a homosexual couple I knew from the
university. I perfectly fitted in this group, and the boys took me under their
wings just like brothers. I felt such solidarity, which I hadn't felt even in
the company of my own brothers. The feeling of being accepted was miraculous.
It tempted me to the homosexual world more than anything else. (2)
Andrew Comiskey has also told how he started to feel a homosexual
longing because he had been isolated from his male friends of the same age.
This was one of the main reasons for his homosexual longing:
In a large part of my early
sexual development, alienation from my own masculinity could be observed. I
felt insufficient and unsuitable for the role of a man. It was mostly because
of the emotional distance I kept from my father, partly because of my own
expectations and wrong observations, and partly because of my father's
imperfections. Alienation from my father was confirmed by the continuous
rejections of my male friends that started already in the and continued through
puberty. Because I had distanced myself from my father and my male friends, I
started to feel a powerful homosexual longing. I didn't understand how hurt and
judgmental I felt towards men. Neither did I understand how difficult it was
for me to deal with my own masculinity. (3)
Mother's influence. A mother can also play a part in the origins of
homosexuality. If she separates the children from their father or binds them
too strongly to her instead of her husband and takes her son as her confidant,
it can cause great harm. The affection of a mother can psychologically mislead
her son, and because he must be the confidant, it can be difficult for him to
separate his own sexual identity from that of his mother. He may then follow
the model of his mother instead of that of his father. Leanne Payne has
described this:
If the child does not have a
strong and supporting father figure, an extremely protective mother who keeps
her son harmfully close can cause her son to have difficulties in separating
his sexual identity from that of his mother, and the mother can promote
homosexual behavior in her son. (4)
The second possible model is a commanding and dominating mother
criticizing her husband in front of the children. The mother can be very
aggressive and derogatory towards her husband, greatly damaging the son's image
of his father. It can also cause the son to have difficulties later on in
trusting women, because his mother has given him such a dominating and commanding
model. This kind of a background has been described by Andrew Comiskey:
Time after time I have seen
how these people are incapable of heterosexual relationships because they feel
that the parent of the opposite sex took advantage of the other parent. One man
who sought help did not trust women at all because his mother had behaved in a
dominating way towards her passive husband and insulted him. (5)
Parents’ negative attitude towards sexuality. One factor causing
homosexuality can be the parents’ negative attitude towards sexuality. The
parents may, for example, unreasonably punish their child for having shown his
body while playing with other children. This can later result in rejecting
sexuality as a whole. Sometimes, the parents’ unreasonably negative reactions
can only cause damage.
The case may also be a father mocking his son’s awakening
interest in girls, whereupon the son can misunderstand it as something
unsuitable, dirty, and abnormal (there may, however, be other influencing
factors behind this as well). The son may later turn to his own gender to
receive sexual approval.
David and Don Wilkerson have described this in their book The
Untapped Generation:
Children who are continually
warned about the danger of sexual relationships start to think them as boring
and dirty. The child interprets his natural sexual feelings during puberty as
abnormal and may feel guilty because of them. The child has perhaps been taught
to fear people of the opposite sex. Parents who themselves have problems with
their sexuality often consciously or unconsciously reflect these feelings to
their children.
Parents who
bring their children up with a healthy attitude towards sexuality need not be
afraid of their child becoming a homosexual; it is very probable that the child
will grow up normally. A home filled with a healthy attitude towards sexuality
should be filled with signs from which the child can naturally conclude that
heterosexuality is not only normal and right, but also rewarding and pleasing.
Sexually well-balanced parents instinctively know how to encourage the
masculinity in boys and femininity in girls. (…)
Wrong demands. Another factor causing homosexuality can be parents
being disappointed in having gotten a boy instead of a girl, and subconsciously
trying to force their child in to the role of the opposite sex, for example by
dressing a boy in the clothes of a girl. Leanne Payne offers a good example of
this:
Loren, an elegant, handsome
forty-year-old man, had been openly homosexual since his youth. This had caused
great conflicts between him and his father, and problems in his other
relationships. He did not accept himself but defended his behavior passionately
when arguing with his father. He understood that his homosexuality included a
grudge and a rebellion towards his father, but he was never able to deal with
these. This man had genuinely found Christ and salvation, but he often lost the
battle against his homosexual tendency, until God brought into light his first
memories. This happened when we asked the Lord to find that recollection that
would expose the cause of the problem. During this prayer, he relived an
occurrence that took place when he was only just born.
He saw his
father coming into the room where he had just been born. Disappointment quickly
filled the room and heavily weighed on him. His father looked at him with
disgust and said, "Another boy!” Then he turned and rushed away from the
room. Loren was their third son, they had been hoping for a girl. Loren
"saw" all of this and experienced it again – and this time,
understood it both intellectually and emotionally. This rejection explained why
Loren had later tried to become a girl, to the great astonishment of the
family. He wanted to play with dolls and girls, not with boys. He unconsciously
tried to be the girl his father had hoped for. (6)
Abuse by someone of the same sex can also cause homosexual behavior. Jerry
Arterburn tells how he was a victim of sexual abuse, which was one of the
factors that led him in the wrong direction. He also tells how many of his
homosexual friends have a similar background. Another quote from a book of
Argentinean evangelist Carlos Annacondia speaks about the same issue:
The result of that evening
was that my feelings got sidetracked. I had been sexually abused. In my case,
that was literally the beginning of the end. (…)
My struggle that
lasted for thirty years resembles that of many other gay people. I have met
several people like me, who have drifted into homosexuality because older boys
or adult men have sexually abused them. Ironically, my first experience gave me
the attention from men that I longed for. At the same time, it tore apart my
already weak basic security and self-esteem. (7)
Many people whom God has freed from
homosexuality have told us that they have either been raped or abused sexually
in the childhood. Often such words as “You are a sissy,” which the parents say
to hurt a child, can subdue a little boy. But when Jesus comes into their life,
the evil spirit has to leave and they are released. I can assure you that no
other treatment is needed. (8)
FEMALE
Homosexuality
As men’s homosexuality is often caused by a defective relationship with
their father, women often have problems with their relationship with their
mother. It is the most common reason for homosexuality among women. Leanne
Payne has observed this to be the most typical reason for female homosexuality:
I now understood that
emotional emptiness which made Lisa especially sensitive and had caused her to
easily drift into a relationship with her lesbian teacher. Lesbian behavior
(except when it is a question of a hysterical personality) as a sexual neurosis
is not as complicated as homosexual behavior in men. According to my
experience, it is generally caused by the need to climb into the mother's lap
that was not fulfilled at all or not enough in childhood. (9)
- One reason for lesbianism can be the woman's fear and anger
towards her father and other men, because they have not loved her. Also, if she
has experienced sexual abuse from men, it may have further increased her fear
and anger towards them. However, because she yearns for love – just like we all
do – she may turn to her own gender.
- An important factor can be the parents having hoped for a boy
instead of a girl, and subconsciously trying to force the girl into the role of
boy. This is one possible factor also in the background of male homosexuality.
ReactiNG
TO CIRCUMSTANCES
Various harmful factors we mentioned earlier can be behind
homosexuality, and perhaps some people have recognized some of them in
themselves.
However, it is good to note that even though many people
have been influenced by similar circumstances, it has not made them homosexual.
They may have suffered from the very same things, but have still not drifted
into a similar way of life.
How we react to our own circumstances makes a difference. (A
good example of this is that even though prostitutes and criminals in general
come from certain kinds of homes, many people who have come from similar
conditions have not become prostitutes or criminals. This means that we can
affect our choices.) For example, Alan Medinger, a former homosexual, says
that circumstances did not cause his homosexuality; rather, it was how he
himself reacted to circumstances. His story fits many people who now practice
homosexuality:
You can find
from my past almost all of those circumstances that are usually thought to lead
to homosexuality: I was not a wanted child, my parents had hoped for a
daughter, I had an older brother who better-met our father’s expectations, and
a father who had big problems in his emotional life. He could hardly manage his
own life, not to mention being a real father for his sons. I know that these
circumstances did not cause my homosexuality. Rather, how I reacted to these
led me into this direction. (10)
Is
CHANGING possible?
People have often defended homosexual behavior by saying that it is
inborn and thus, cannot be influenced. Many have even showed the wrong kind of
compassion saying, "You were born like this. You must accept it.” Maybe
the same has been said to many of these people.
But as we noted before, homosexuality is not inborn, but is
a question of circumstances and one's own choices. If it were hereditary, then
it would be likely that, for example, from a group of three children all would
become homosexual. However, this is usually not the case. We might also think
that the parents and grandparents should also be homosexual. That they are not
so tells us that homosexuality is not hereditary or inborn.
Changing one’s behavior is certainly possible, though many
homosexuals might say that they can never change or want to change.
God -- who created people as male and female -- can also
heal a broken person, because that is what this is also about. He can heal our
soul and mend what was broken over the years. We only have to first give our
life to God.
A good example of how God works is seen in Cor. 6. In this
passage, it is described how homosexuals will not inherit the kingdom of God, but
then Paul adds, "And such were some of
you."
This indicates that some of these people were previously homosexual, but
changed. Paul wrote:
- (1 Cor 6:9,11) Know you not that
the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor
adulterers, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind,
10 Nor thieves, nor
covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortionists, shall inherit the
kingdom of God.
11 And such were some of you: but you are washed, but you are
sanctified, but you are justified in the name of the Lord Jesus, and by the
Spirit of our God.
Alan Medinger has also told about his own change. It happened suddenly,
which of course is not always the case:
The following day and the
days after it I noticed that a whole lot of miracles had taken place.
Homosexual fantasies that I had had every day over the past 25 years had
disappeared. I experienced such a love towards Willa, that I had not even
imagined it to be possible. And what is perhaps even more important, God was
not a distant judge to me anymore, but He had become my personal Savior. Jesus
loved me, and I loved Him a lot. It was the first time I understood what loving
and to be loved really mean. (…)
Because the healing from homosexuality took place so suddenly, I am often asked
how perfect the healing really is. I can answer by saying that time is a proof
of its genuineness and that a blessed marriage is the fruit of it. Over the
last ten years, I have not experienced any homosexual temptations. With
temptation I mean that I would have seriously considered or wished to have sex
with men. However, after the basic healing I in a way missed having an older,
stronger man in my life. Also this has now gone, and I regard men as my
brothers, not as fathers or protectors. (11)
Let’s look at another quote that is connected with the subject. It is
about a transsexual woman who lived in the role of a man for 37 years (the
writing is called For 37 years in the role of a man: God unified my
identity). She behaved like a man, dressed like a man and used the name
of a man. She suppressed all things feminine in herself and only a few knew
that in reality she was a woman.
A reason for her behaviour was mainly the
conditions of her childhood and life, which is a common background for
homosexuals and the sexually disabled. She wanted to be a boy instead of a girl
and she noticed that she could please her parents better in the role of a boy.
However, liberation and recovery started when she gave her life to God:
… - I’m from the Netherlands. My father was an Italian and my
mother a Romany of the Netherlands. My family was very broken. I had to cope
with the criminal world of Rotterdam already in youth. At the age of fourteen,
I was sentenced to prison for three and half years, La Serpe tells.
Because of problems at
home, the girl spent several years of her childhood with her grandmother in
Italy. Her parents had hoped for their firstborn to be a boy. The girl noticed
already at an early age that she pleased her parents and managed in streets better
as a boy. The dresses, jewellery and make-up were not for her. Luisa suppressed
all things feminine in herself and took as her name the masculine name Loid.
Only a few knew her right sex because she shaved her hair, used
men’s clothes and behaved like other men.
(...) This is how Luisa’s change from a drug dealer to an
evangelist began. Femininity began to be in proportion as she started to
recover from her internal wounds, of which the rejection experiences of her
childhood were biggest. It took, however, several years before she dared to
give up her male identity wholly to God’s care.
(...) God assured that He knew how Luisa was doing. He promised
to heal the wounds of her heart if Luisa only returned to Him.
- That night, the Holy Spirit came and took care of me. I got to
be healed thoroughly from my internal wounds and to be in His arms like a
child. I repented that I had lived in the role of a man up to the age of 37.
Only then did I dare to give up my male identity wholly to God and accept my
femininity.
The tall, beautiful woman breaks with emotion many times as she
remembers the old days. The journey has not been easy but today she is happy.
Luisa is full of joyful tension as she waits to see what God has planned for
her next.
After her recovery, Luisa
returned to slum work among the most miserable of Fortaleza in Brazil. She
shows photographs in which she poses with a saved, former Macumba priest or
prays with a crying woman whose lower extremities are gangrened because of untreated
diabetes.
- Poverty, diseases, criminality and prostitution are the daily
reality in slums. Sometimes I had to flee with my friends from gangsters armed
with jungle knives. But still the work was worth the while, Luisa La Serpe
rejoices. (12)
"I have this
tendency"
When we look at whether homosexuality is inborn, many people may argue
by saying that they have this tendency and can do nothing about it (we noted
before that homosexuality is not inborn). They may also say that their tendency
cannot be morally wrong.
However, it is not so special for someone to have a
tendency, such as homosexuality. Some may have a tendency towards alcoholism,
smoking, anger, extramarital relationships, pornography or other such things.
These are tendencies just like any others, homosexuality is no different.
For us to have a tendency – inborn or not – does not make
us just a victim of our circumstances. We can, at least to some degree, choose
how much we let the tendency lead us. Thus, a person with a homosexual tendency
can choose whether he or she has sexual intercourse, or has intercourse with
just one person or with several people, for example. In the same way, a spouse
can decide to be faithful, even though he or she felt an urge to fall in love
with someone else. Someone who loves food can to some degree control his or her
appetite just like a smoker can decide when to put a cigarette into his or her
mouth.
The question is whether we let these wrong tendencies
control our life. This is what Paul has written:
- (Rom 6:12) Let not sin therefore
reign in your mortal body, that you should obey it in the lusts thereof.
The help of God in overcoming
these tendencies
In the previous paragraphs, we talked about tendencies and overcoming them.
It is also possible that a person is dependent on his or her tendencies.
Perhaps you are the kind of person who has struggled with homosexuality or some
other dependency, but have not been able to get rid of it.
For you to have this kind of a dependency is actually a
sign that you belong to a certain group of people. You are, according to the
Bible, the servant of sin as Jesus said:
- (John 8:34,35) Jesus answered them,
Truly, truly, I say to you, Whoever commits sin is the servant of sin.
35 And the servant stays not in the house for ever: but the Son stays
ever.
If you are a slave to sin, you can be freed. Jesus – who said those
words – is a friend of sinners (Matthew 11:19) as His enemies called Him. He
welcomes sinners -- people like you and me:
- (Luke 15:1,2) Then drew near to him
all the publicans and sinners for to hear him.
2 And the Pharisees and scribes murmured, saying, This man
receives sinners, and eats with them.
So, if you are suffering from homosexuality or are in some other way a
slave to sin, you can be freed if you turn to Jesus Christ. He has promised to
make you free:
- (John 8:36) If the Son therefore
shall make you free, you shall be free indeed.
Homosexuality
is sin
The most serious thing about homosexuality is that it is a sin, and
those who practice it will not inherit the kingdom of God. Many, perhaps, do
not like to hear this, but it was written nearly 2,000 years ago. The next
verses refer to this:
- (1 Cor 6:9,10) Know you not that the
unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor
adulterers, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind,
10 Nor thieves,
nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortionists, shall inherit
the kingdom of God.
- (Lev 18:22) You shall not lie with mankind, as with womankind: it
is abomination.
- (Rom 1:26,27) For this cause God gave
them up to vile affections: for even their women did change the natural
use into that which is against nature:
27 And likewise
also the men, leaving the natural use of the woman, burned in their lust one
toward another; men with men working that which is unseemly, and receiving in
themselves that recompense of their error which was meet.
- (1 Tim 1:9,10) Knowing this, that the
law is not made for a righteous man, but for the lawless and disobedient, for
the ungodly and for sinners, for unholy and profane, for murderers of fathers
and murderers of mothers, for murderers,
10 For
fornicators, for them that defile themselves with mankind, for
enslavers, for liars, for perjured persons, and if there be any other thing
that is contrary to sound doctrine;
- (Jude 1:7) Even as Sodom and Gomorrah, and the cities about them
in like manner, giving themselves over to fornication, and going after
strange flesh, are set forth for an example, suffering the vengeance of
eternal fire.
The next example illustrates how important it is to understand that
practicing homosexuality and lust is a sin. If one does not understand this, he
can never find peace with God and get a clear conscience. It also bars his
possibility to be saved:
I remember another person who, too,
consulted doctors often. He came to talk also with me. People have prayed for
him a lot, but he did not find peace with God. Everybody said: “Just believe in
God. That is enough.” But the Lord told me about the matter and I dared to ask
the patient a frightening question: “Are you a homosexual?” He said: “How can
you know?” I answered: “The Lord showed me that.” “It happened as I was still
young”, he said. “Have you confessed this sin to the Lord? When you confess
your sin, you will be healed”, I answered. “But that’s not a sin. It’s an
illness.” I said: “Then I cannot help you.” I said goodbye to the patient. Six
weeks later he came to me and said: “Now I am convinced that it is a sin.” I
said again: “Confess it to the Lord.” He answered: “I cannot do it.” For a half
hour we battled for his soul, until he confessed his acts to the Lord. From
that day he has been a happy man. Never again did he have to go to a mental
hospital. Happiness could be seen on his face! There is power in the blood of
Jesus Christ. God gives the fullness of His Holy Spirit so that we can help
people to freedom. People are enslaved by sin, and a superficial message about
Jesus cannot free them. (13)
Many may think that homosexuality is not a sin and defend it in the name
of love and tolerance. But we should ask ourselves: If the Bible verses above
are true, does it not make things different? Seen in this light, these defenses
supporting or accepting homosexuality only lead other people away from God and
even to damnation. People who do not take care of the souls of others make
themselves, in a way, greater authorities than the Bible when they claim that
the verses are a lie. Perhaps just these people are those through whom offenses come, as Jesus said in Luke 17:1-2 (See also James 3:1-2.).
The most important thing,
however, is that no-one has to go to hell because of homosexuality or any other
sin. If we turn to God and repent, then everything can change and we will
receive forgiveness in our life.
This is based on what took place nearly 2,000
years ago through Jesus. The Bible tells us very clearly that God sent Him -
Jesus the Messiah - because God loved the world and each of us:
- (John 3:16) For God so loved the world, that he gave his only
begotten Son, that whoever believes
in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.
The Bible tells us that when Christ came to the
Earth, he took away the sin of the world by dying on the cross. Because the sin
of the world was put onto Him and taken away, our sins were also taken away.
This enables God to forgive us for our sins, and gives us a new life here on
Earth, if we want to receive it:
- (John 1:29) The next day John sees Jesus coming to him, and said, Behold
the Lamb of God, which takes away the sin of the world.
- (2 Cor 6:1,2) We then, as workers together
with him, beseech you also that you receive not the grace of God in vain.
2 (For he said, I have heard you in a time accepted, and in the day
of salvation have I succored you: behold, now is the accepted time; behold, now
is the day of salvation.)
BECOMING
PART OF LIFE
If someone has gone away from God for a long time, he or she can still
be saved and have a connection with Him. He or she can also overcome his or her
tendencies, so that they will not control the main part of his or her life. The
next issues are connected to this:
Coming
to THE heavenly Father
The first step is to turn to the Heavenly Father. This can only be done
through Jesus Christ, just as Jesus Himself said:
- (John 14:6) Jesus said to him,
I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man comes to the Father, but by
me.
So, when you personally turn to God through Jesus Christ, you can tell
Him that you want to be in connection with Him and that you need salvation.
Luke15 tells the story of the prodigal son. The son confessed his sins and
returned to his father. As a result, the father was filled with compassion for
him and ran to him. Our Heavenly Father's attitude towards you and all of us
who turn to Him is the same:
- (Luke 15:18-20) I will arise and
go to my father, and will say to him,
Father, I have sinned against heaven, and before you,
19 And am no more
worthy to be called your son: make me as one of your hired servants.
20 And he arose, and came to his father. But when he was yet a great
way off, his father saw him, and had compassion, and ran, and
fell on his neck, and kissed him.
Understand
GOD'S love!
Next, understand that God loves you. He has loved you always, even when
you did not know Him. It has been written:
- (Rom 5:6-8) For when we were yet
without strength, in due time Christ died for the ungodly.
7 For scarcely
for a righteous man will one die: yet peradventure for a good man some would
even dare to die.
8 But God commends his love toward us, in that, while we were yet
sinners, Christ died for us.
You must also understand that the same applies to the present if you
have turned to God. God's love does not depend on how successful your life has
been or how well you have defeated sin, it is full-time love. This is what
Paul's letter to the Romans says about it:
- (Rom. 8:35, 39) Who shall
separate us from the love of Christ…
39 Nor height, nor depth, nor any other creature, shall be able to
separate us from the love of God, which is in Christ Jesus our Lord.
Trust!
The third important thing is that you trust in the power of God in your
life. This is based on the fact that you have been grafted onto Christ (John
15:5). When you are tempted (and that certainly will happen!), you can look
at Christ and wait for Him to do what to you is impossible. You will certainly not become perfect in the
blink of an eye, but you can rely on His help in your life:
- (Phil 1:6) Being confident of this very thing, that he which has
begun a good work in you will perform it until the day of Jesus Christ.
So, if you have a
temptation or tendency towards homosexuality, remember that you can conquer it
in the same way that you can conquer anger, criticism, alcoholism, and other
sins: by the power of Jesus Christ. This was very common in the early
congregation and we can certainly expect it now. You must only turn to God and
wait for His miracle to happen in your life:
- (Tit 3:3-5) For we ourselves also
were sometimes foolish, disobedient, deceived, serving divers lusts and
pleasures, living in malice and envy, hateful, and hating one another.
4 But after that
the kindness and love of God our Savior toward man appeared,
5 Not by works of righteousness which we have done, but according to
his mercy He saved us, by the washing of regeneration, and renewing of the Holy
Ghost;
References:
1. Jerry Arterburn:
Kun kulissit kaatuvat (How Will I Tell My Mother), p.131
2. Same, p. 73
3. Andrew Comiskey: Täyteen miehuuteen ja koko naiseksi
(Pursuing Sexual Wholeness), p. 131
4. Leanne Payne: Särkynyt minäkuva (The Broken
Image), p. 46
5. Andrew Comiskey: Täyteen miehuuteen ja koko
naiseksi (Pursuing Sexual Wholeness),
p. 139,140
6. Leanne Payne: Särkynyt
minäkuva (The Broken Image), p. 84, 85
7. Jerry Arterburn:
Kun kulissit kaatuvat (How Will I Tell My Mother), p. 39,40
8. Carlos Annacondia: Kuuntele minua Saatana! (Listen
to me, satan!), p. 122
9. Leanne Payne: Särkynyt minäkuva (The Broken Image),
p.30
10. Roland Werner: Toisenlainen rakkaus
(Homosexualität – ein Schicksal?), p.48
11. Same, p.50,51
12. Näky-magazine 4 / 2008, p. 10-12
13. Michael Harry: Te saatte voiman, p. 75
THE MOST IMPORTANT SOURCES:
Arterburn jerry: How Will I Tell My Mother
Comiskey Andrew: Pursuing Sexual Wholeness
Payne Leanne: The Broken Image
Werner Roland: Homosexualität – ein Schicksal?
