THE CHURCH AND SOCIETY
- (Acts 22:17,18) And it came to pass, that,
when I was come again to Jerusalem, even while I prayed in the temple, I was in
And saw him saying to me, Make haste, and get you quickly out of Jerusalem: for they will not receive your
testimony concerning me.
Paul was faced with great opposition during his times in Jerusalem.
There was a loud group of people who did not accept the Gospel about Jesus
Christ preached by Paul; they were strongly opposed to it. They considered it
impossible for Jesus to be the promised Messiah and the Son of God, thus they
rejected Paul's message.
What about the situation
today? The same kind of opposition is met today, too. People are not always
directly opposed to Jesus Christ but they may have other prejudices that
prevent them from studying the teachings of the Bible. One such prejudice
favours the evolution theory. If people are convinced that all the current
plants and animals evolved from more primitive forms of life, and life came
into being by itself, then they are not interested in learning about the
Gospel. If the story about the Creation is not historically reliable, why
believe in the Gospel about Jesus Christ?, they tell themselves. It naturally
follows, then, that they reject the Gospel.
However, this writing is not
an examination of the theory of evolution, which we’ll do in another work. Our
task in this writing is to look into quite another subject: homosexuality. Fairly
recently this topic has gotten much attention, although in today’s media we
often get only one side of the story. The media often speaks about human rights
and equality, but it does not pay much attention to other aspects of
homosexuality. This is why we will
study some information that the media rarely provides.
Are humans eternal beings? Firstly, we should
think about whether or not eternity is real, that is, whether or not we exist
as eternal beings. This will give us a whole new perspective, because compared
to our eternal nature everything else is trivial. If we exist in this world for
only a short time, then we should not waste our lives.
So, if we continue living after death, and
if our choices influence our destiny, then we should change our actions. If it
is true that intentional sinning – including homosexuality – will prevent us
from inheriting the kingdom of God, we must take it into account. We are unwise
if we fail to pay attention to, for example, the following passage. We should
look at our actions and opinions in the light of eternity; otherwise our thinking
is not wise. So please take into account the following words; think about
whether or not they are true, and about how they will influence your life!
- (1 Cor 6:9,10) Know you not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the
kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither
fornicators, nor idolaters, nor
adulterers, nor effeminate, nor
abusers of themselves with mankind,
10 Nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor
revilers, nor extortionists, shall
inherit the kingdom of God.
Niilo Yli-Vainio, a well-known Finnish preacher, used to talk about this
subject. He said that the human soul is immortal and that eternity is endless.
The choices we make during this life are very important.
So, if our current life is like the flight of a bird or
smoke that blows away (James 4:14), we should not depend on it. We should, instead, consider and prepare for
eternity. We should strive to make our time on earth as worthwhile as we can.
Living selfishly and refusing to think about life after death is the dumbest
thing we can do.
Thirdly, I think about the value of a human
based on that the human soul is eternal, everlasting...
you ever thought that you are an eternal being, that you carry the true person inside
you? This, all the things we can see on the outside... Like the old Finnish man
I see in the mirror, it is only the house of the old Finn that I see... It will
soon rot away and be torn down!
the inhabitant is inside the house! The true inhabitant.
body is of earth and will return to earth. But the one inside – that one is
eternal, eternal, eternal.
think about how long a time eternity is, it is very long. And your soul is an
eternal being, believe it or not, that will not change either way... God has
said what God has said and people cannot change it.
people believe that a tree will rot where it fell, let them think so. And that
is quite true in the case of a tree. But not in the case of the human soul. It
is eternal... eternal and never-ending! And think, my dear friend, think with
cold reason: if you lose your precious soul, the eternal soul, you will lose it
dear God! I'm running out of words when thinking!
valuable person that God made, the person made for Heaven, the human soul made
for Heaven will some day lose itself and its soul and enter eternity that will
mere awareness that it will never end will make it hell. Nothing else is
needed! No pain or brimstone is necessary: only this awareness! That it will
never end! It will be enough to make it hell.
to me: you are valuable! (1)
Not an idea created by modern
man. We must understand that the previous passage from 1 Corinthians, as well
as others in the Bible, was not written by modern man. They were not created
and recorded in the present time to cause us injury. We must ask, are these old
writings still valid and true today?
People can easily compare the different views of modern
people about extramarital affairs, homosexuality and other similar issues, but
what we should think about are the teachings from 2,000 years ago and our
attitude towards them. Do we consider them true or false? Some critics think
that Jesus and his Apostles were liars, and that they were totally unaware of
eternal life (even though the critics themselves know nothing about life
after death). Others believe that the teachings of Jesus and the Apostles
are true and just as important for us today as they were back then. Our belief
about these statements is based on our own attitudes. We’re all different, and
we each form our own thoughts and opinions. Which side of the debate do you
- (Matt 22:16-18) And they sent out to him
their disciples with the Herodians, saying, Master, we know that you are true, and teach the way of God in truth,
neither care you for any man: for you regard not the person of men.
17 Tell us therefore, What think you? Is it lawful to
give tribute to Caesar, or not?
18 But Jesus perceived their wickedness, and said, Why
tempt you me, you hypocrites?
- (John 8:44-46) You are of your father the devil,
and the lusts of your father you will do. He was a murderer from the beginning,
and stayed not in the truth, because there is no truth in him. When he speaks a
lie, he speaks of his own: for he is a liar, and the father of it.
because I tell you the truth, you believe me not.
46 Which of you convinces me of sin? And if I say the truth, why do you not
- (2 Cor 4:2) But have renounced the hidden
things of dishonesty, not walking in craftiness, nor handling the word of God
deceitfully; but by manifestation of
the truth commending ourselves to every man's conscience in the sight
- (1 Tim 2:3,4) For this is good and
acceptable in the sight of God our Savior;
4 Who will have all men to be saved, and to come to the knowledge of the
- (2 Tim 3:6,7) For of this sort are they
which creep into houses, and lead captive silly women laden with sins, led away
with divers lusts,
7 Ever learning, and
never able to come to the knowledge of the truth.
- (2 Tim 4:3,4) For the time will come when they will not endure sound
doctrine; but after their own lusts
shall they heap to themselves teachers, having itching ears;
4 And they shall turn away
their ears from the truth, and shall be turned to fables.
- (John 21:24) This is the disciple which
testifies of these things, and wrote these things: and we know that his testimony is true.
What is love? People often
justify their opinions about homosexuality by saying that they care about
people and want to extend love to everyone. That is a right attitude -- we must
truly love everyone, even people who have drifted into homosexuality. Clearly,
we have not always been successful at doing this.
However, as stated earlier, if
we are eternal beings then we must think like eternal beings. If it is true
that intentional sin – including homosexuality – will prevent us from
inheriting the kingdom of God, then we must take this to heart. If our actions
have consequences, and wrongful actions lead us astray, then the right way to
show our love is to warn others. That is true care.
It is like warning someone
about weak ice: "I'm worried about you. Don't step on that thin ice
because you can drown. You might be hurt." However, that person who hugs
someone who is in danger rather than warning them would be seen as indifferent.
It is also possible that the hugger does not believe that there is a real risk
that the weak ice will collapse. That is why the person hugs rather than warns
Human rights or sin and lust?
people talk about homosexuality in a supportive way, they often raise the
subjects of human rights and equality. They stand on those to support
What does the Bible,
especially the New Testament, teach us? The Bible teaches that homosexuality is
a sin and lustful (1 Cor 6:9,10; Lev 18:22; Rom 1:26,27; 1 Tim 1:9,10; Jude 7).
People who do homosexual acts are standing in the same position as everyone
else before God – no worse and no better. That
is true equality, as seen from another perspective.
The Bible teaches, however,
that we must all repent, regardless of our sins. Nobody's in a special
position: All of us must turn to God and confess our sins. The problem with
people today is that they fail to admit that their actions are actually sinful;
that is what prevents them from being forgiven. Nowhere in the Old or New
Testaments is it written that unrepentent sinners will be saved (1 Cor 6:9: Know you not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the
kingdom of God? Be not deceived …):
- (Luke 13:2-5) And Jesus answering said to
them, Suppose you that these Galilaeans were sinners above all the Galilaeans,
because they suffered such things?
3 I tell you, No: but,
except you repent, you shall all likewise perish.
4 Or those eighteen, on whom the tower in Siloam fell,
and slew them, think you that they were sinners above all men that dwelled in
5 I tell you, No: but, except you repent, you shall all
- (Acts 17:29,30) For as much then as we are
the offspring of God, we ought not to think that the Godhead is like to gold,
or silver, or stone, graven by are and man's device.
30 And the times of this ignorance God winked at; but now commands all men every where to
- (1 John 1:8-10) If we say that we have no
sin, we deceive ourselves, and the truth is not in us.
9 If we
confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and
to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.
10 If we say that we have not sinned, we make him a
liar, and his word is not in us.
Influence of the gay movement
in the media. From the Biblical perspective, homosexuality is one of several sins
that lead people away from God and towards damnation. If homosexuals keep on
doing sinful things and they refuse to repent and turn to God with all their
heart, then they will face eternal damnation.
However, everyone can be
forgiven, because God loves us all -- including gay people. He does not hate
these people: He wants them to be saved and wants them to come to Him. He loves
all of us, and that is why He gave Jesus to the world. This truth lies in the
heart of the Gospel:
- (John 3:16,17) For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten
Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.
17 For God sent not his Son into the world to condemn
the world; but that the world through him might be saved.
- (1 John 4:9,10) In this was manifested the
love of God toward us, because that God sent his only begotten Son into the
world, that we might live through him.
10 Herein is love, not that we loved
God, but that he loved us, and sent
his Son to be the propitiation for our sins.
- (Rom 5:6-8) For when we were yet without
strength, in due time Christ died for
7 For scarcely for a righteous man will one die: yet
peradventure for a good man some would even dare to die.
8 But God commends his love toward us, in that, while we were yet sinners, Christ died
Unfortunately, many homosexuals and others fail to understand this. They
think that God, and Christians, are against them even though it is a question
of what we believe to be morally right and wrong. We might compare this to a
mother whose son is a drug addict. The mother is surely not happy that her son
is doing drugs, and she thinks that this kind of behaviour is wrong, but she
still cares deeply for her son. This – although inadequately – describes a
little of what God’s feeling is for all sinners including homosexuals. He cares
for them, but does not want them to sin. If people follow the Bible, they
should think along the same lines.
One good illustration of how
some homosexuals rebel against God and His love can be found in resistance to change
therapy. They don't want to accept the fact that some people want to reject the
homosexual way of life and want to change, and that is why they claim that such
therapy is either not scientific or that it in some way steps on gay rights. A
person who practiced a homosexual lifestyle describes his experiences:
It is clear that all homosexuals
are not seeking for a way to change their sexual orientation, and these people
should not be forced to do so. The problem is actually different now: prior to
the 1970s, all homosexuals were offered change therapy but now it is not given
even to those who want it. The worst antagonist towards change therapy and the
largest oppressor of all homosexuals who want to become whole is the gay
movement that systematically tries to prevent any discussion about change therapy
in the academic and psychotherapeutic circles. The oppressed have become the
tactics include sabotaging change therapy lectures and threatening change
therapists with imposition from abroad. Free discussion is difficult because
many people are afraid of becoming threatened and vilified by gay activists.
quote is about how the gay movement must influence the media and get society
accustomed to homosexuality. This quote is taken from a book by Marshal Kirk and
Hunter Madsen (After the Ball: How
America Will Conquer its Fear and Hatred of Gays in the 1990s (1989), part
of the propaganda used by the US gay movement. It tries to negatively label
those who disagree with their opinion. We can all estimate how the objectives
described in the book have progressed.
If you have been involved in such activity,
what do you gain by denigrating and vilifying others? What do you gain by
insisting that others accept your way of life? Don't reject the love of God.
Instead, turn to Him and receive grace through Jesus Christ! Why are you trying
to strike back at the pricks on your conscience, as was Paul before he was
converted: Acts 9:3-5: And as he journeyed, he came
near Damascus: and suddenly there shined round about him a light from heaven:
And he fell to the earth, and heard a voice saying to him, Saul, Saul, why
persecute you me? And he said, Who are you, Lord? And the Lord said, I am Jesus
whom you persecute.”
"What we must do is make the average
heterosexual feel extreme shame. We must continuously subject them to images
and verbal statements that cause a contradiction between all the thoughts that
homosexuality is abnormal and the fact that they want, deep inside, to be accepted
by others, to blend in. This is why propagandist advertising calls all those
who are against the gay movement [to be] homophobic fanatics who are "not
Christian". Finally, the propaganda shows these people as the target of
criticism, the hated and the silenced. (...)
reach our goal without making references to any facts, logic or justification.
(...) The beliefs of somebody can be changed through continuous emotional
conditioning regardless of whether the person is aware of the attack against them
or not. (...) When converting a heterosexual, we must repeatedly use written
images that depict homosexuals as [being] similar to traditional heterosexuals.
Such images must be the icon of normality. These advertisements will influence
them even if they do not believe them. The heterosexual will feel two
conflicting emotions: they will have a positive reaction towards the image but
a negative reaction towards homosexuals, the good reaction from the image and
the bad reaction to homosexuality.
worst, these reactions will cancel each other, and we have succeeded in
muddling up the picture. At best, the conditioning based on the association
will slowly start to cause positive feelings towards the person in the image.
development will not stop
- (2 Tim 3:1-4,13) This know also, that in the last days perilous times shall
2 For men
shall be lovers of their own selves, covetous, boasters, proud,
blasphemers, disobedient to parents, unthankful, unholy,
3 Without natural affection, truce breakers, false
accusers, incontinent, fierce, despisers of those that are good,
4 Traitors, heady, high minded, lovers of pleasures more than lovers of God;
13 But evil men and seducers shall wax worse and worse, deceiving, and
Society’s change and the degradation of morals are not separate matters;
this is what we must understand. The acceptance of homosexuality is just one
part of the sexual revolution that began in the 1960s and continued ever since.
Back then, a few people started to defend free sex without marriage. These
people were treated as heroes by the media. The same people also demanded that
abortions should be made legal and interviewed homosexuals.
So, the seeds for our current societal divisions were sown back then. This new
morality – that was generally considered wrong through past decades and
centuries – became widely acceptable and began to influence our individual
decisions. One whole generation rejected the values that previous ones had
The next quote is about this
subject. It describes developments in the 1960s and explains how the situation
changed: things that people used to consider immoral or wrong became popular
because the media constantly held them up as examples. Slowly, people’s minds changed.
I was away from my homeland for three years, the
years 1965 to 1968. When I returned in the autumn of 1968, I was very surprised
at the change that had taken place in the atmosphere of public conversation. This concerned
both the tone of conversation and also the framing of questions.
(...) In the world of high school, those who
demanded justification of sexual relationships were the ones blowing their
trombones loudly. They insisted, for instance, that boys and girls should be allowed to
live together in university dormitories even though they were not married.
It seemed as though the Teenager
Union had been conquered by new leaders, who announced not only socialism and
school democracy but also an idea of free sexual relationships.
All in all, what was new with the
situation was that there were reference groups speaking about sexual questions
much more openly than it had been normal in public. These groups accused the
society and the church of double standards.
The tone of the conversation was to
a large extent ethical. Morals were regarded as bad, and were blamed. However, a new
moral was simultaneously announced, often very moralistically and intolerantly. It was discussed
earlier that the sexual behavior of young people must be understood, but now
some groups announced that it is right to have free sexual relationships. The institution of
marriage and real genuine love were even set aside. Illegal couples were
interviewed in public, as though they were some kind of heroes of a new moral
standard, who had dared to rise against the morals of the bourgeois society. Homosexuals were
interviewed in the same way and people demanded abortion to be legalized.
(...) Even though, according to my observations,
the atmosphere of public conversation in Finland had changed surprisingly much
between the years 1965 and 1968, the topical questions discussed everywhere
else in the world were the same as in Finland. The difference was only in
the vehemence of conversation and perhaps in the fact that in a small country
like Finland, small active groups can almost overpower the media. In addition, we
are probably still unaccustomed to public conversation. So the simple attitude of
being right becomes dominant in a small country like Finland much easier than
in larger countries. (4)
There is, thus, a generational gap in morality. A person who holds the
opinion that abortion (Thou shall not kill.), extramarital affairs (Thou shall
not commit adultery.), or homosexuality are wrong is now often labelled a
radical conservative, even though these were commonly held beliefs amongst
previous generations. Only this generation has adopted these new doctrines and
standpoints. The change can also be seen on television. Programs contain much
more pornography, violence and vulgarity than ever existed before. If there has
been change, then this change has certainly not gone in the right direction.
- (Jer 16:11,12) Then shall you say to them, Because your fathers have forsaken me,
said the LORD, and have walked after other gods, and have served them, and have
worshipped them, and have forsaken me, and have not kept my law;
12 And you
have done worse than your fathers; for, behold, you walk every one
after the imagination of his evil heart, that they may not listen to me:
The next quote
about paedophilia and pederasty (relations between boys and men) refers to this
same subject. (Talk about a paedophilic party has already been heard in the
Netherlands.) Once people and the media have turned onto the wrong road, it
does not end. It will lead deeper into callousness where people will say that
evil is good and good is evil. (Isaiah
5:20: Woe to them that call evil good, and good evil;
that put darkness for light, and light for darkness; that put bitter for sweet,
and sweet for bitter!). It is likely that this will occur the closer
we get to the coming of Jesus. Several prophecies in the Bible predict such
In the past decades, we have noted how the
breaking of one social taboo related to sex has cleared the way for the
acceptance of the next, more serious taboo. Pre- and extramarital sex has
become more and more publicly accepted, starting in the 1960s. The next in line
in the 1990s were homosexuality and transsexual-ism. The only things left now
are paedophilia and pederasty.
is usually considered to be an exaggeration and an attempt at intimidating
people. Homosexual movements are also opposed to comparing homosexuality with
paedophilia. This is not an issue that can be lightly set aside, however. Most
regular homosexuals are not even familiar with what the international
homosexual movement has done or with the discussions that are currently taking
place in academic homosexual publications. (5)
WHAT IS ITS CAUSE? A topic rarely discussed in the general media is why
people are homosexual. We hear a lot of talk about human rights, equality and
tolerance but not much about this aspect. It has been forgotten in modern
discussions, and it is not a topic in which many people are interested. Maybe
that is because people think science has already resolved this point.
Is homosexuality caused by
genetics? The standard explanation for homosexuality now is that it is congenital
and caused by genes or hormones excreted during pregnancy. People think that
homosexuality is mainly caused by biological factors.
This explanation is not
supported by studies done on twins, however. Identical twins have the same
genes and were subjected to the same environment in the uterus, but still only
one of the pair may be sexually attracted to people of the same sex. If homosexuality
was caused by genes, this should not be the case. The next quote is about an
extensive study of this question done in Canada. There were around 20,000
subjects included in the study. The results suggest that genes and genotypes do
not play a decisive role in the occurrence of homosexuality.
A study on twins in Canada showed that social
factors are more important than genes. Researcher Peter S. Bearman of the
University of Columbia and researcher Hannah Bruckner of Yale University (2002)
studied a group of young people representing the entire nation (Bearman, P.S.
and Bruckner, H.: ”Opposite-Sex Twins and Adolescent Same-Sex Attraction.”
American Journal of Sociology 2002, 107,5, pp. 1179–1205).
Identical twins have the same genes; this is why they are so similar. If
they differ from each other in any way, this must have been caused by the
environment in which they live. Only 50% of the genes of non-identical twins
are the same. If homosexuality were determined biologically, it should be more
common among identical than non-identical twins. There should be more
homosexuality among non-identical twins and other siblings than adopted
children of the same family who do not share any of the same genes. If the
results do not fit in with this idea, [then] the simplified genetic model is
simply not suitable as an explanation of homosexuality.
research results show that genes do not have any major significance. If one of
a pair of identical twins was homosexual, there was a 6.7% probability that the
other twin was also interested in people of the same sex. The percentage for
non-identical twins was 7.2% and for regular siblings 5.5%. These results
strongly disagree with the above-mentioned genetic model for homosexuality.
environment in which twins grow inside the uterus of their mother is exactly
the same for both twins in terms of hormones, and thus the results obtained by
Bearman and Brucker disprove the theory that an imbalance in the hormones of
the mother during pregnancy causes homosexuality.
Previous twin studies had obtained their subjects at clinics or through
homosexual organisations, or otherwise had a limited sample. Bearman and
Brucker state that their study is the most reliable one because it was based on
a random sampling from a youth study including the entire nation. There were
around 20,000 test subjects! Furthermore, the researchers did not rely on what
one of a pair of twins said about the twin's sexual orientation: Instead, they
went to the other twin and asked them about it. (6)
The same subject is addressed in the interviews below. The interviews
are of people who have experienced homosexual feelings. These people say that
they do not believe the homosexual behaviour to have been caused by genes or
genotypes. (This does not mean that all people who have had homosexual ideas
would feel the same.) These people mention some background factors they believe
to have contributed to their feelings and inclinations more than genes.
Ole does not believe, however, that there is
some kind of a "homosexual gene". He believes that homosexual
feelings stem from a more complex pool, and he mentions, for instance, that he
knows many pairs of identical twins of which only one of the pair is homosexual.
believes that many factors contributed to his behaviour, such as his complex
and poor relationship with his father when he was a child.
does not hold back when telling about his relationship with his father as a
child. He felt that his father was
never there and he feared his father. The father sometimes had a raging fit,
and Ole felt a few times that his father intentionally humiliated him in
public. Ole says bluntly that he hated his father. (7)
Harri is interested in the discussion about
homosexuality in the media and studies about homosexuality. He is convinced
that homosexuality has very little to do with congenital factors. He bases this
view on, for instance, the fact that it is often easy to find out why people
have homosexual inclinations. They have usually been subjected to sexual
violence or have a difficult relationship with their parents or peers.
"This has convinced me that it is not first and foremost about
genes. However, I don't think that it is impossible for some people to have
some genes that make them more susceptible to homosexual inclinations,"
Harri says. (8)
Tepi believes that her homosexuality has been
caused by some sort of an emotional vacuum she is trying to fill. Tepi says
that she feared her father as a child and is still "kind of freaked out by
men". Tepi says that she is looking for a mother in women. Even though
Tepi wonders why she is a lesbian, she also says about being attracted to
women: "It has been somehow so natural that I've sometimes wondered how
this could be." On the other hand, she believes that there is some reason
for this, too.
does not believe that homosexuality is caused by genes or that a person could
be a gay or a lesbian since birth. She believes that a person grows into a gay
or a lesbian, and this can happen also without any special incident. (9)
I have – and many other homosexuals – wondered
what causes homosexuality. I think that the personality of a child is formed
during his or her three first years, also in terms of sexuality. This is
influenced both by the environment and human biology. I don't believe that
homosexuality is hereditary. Many of my male relatives have trouble dealing
with my being homosexual just because they are afraid that it runs in the family.
Background factors. It has been noted
that homosexuals suffer from mental illness, depression, anxiety and alcoholism
more often than other people. For example, Robert P. Capaj describes in his Textbook of Homosexuality and Mental Health
(1998) how abuse of chemical substances is very common among homosexuals:
Most studies (...), reports (...), surveys (...)
and healthcare professionals who have worked with gays and lesbians estimate
that around 30%, varying between 28 and 35%, of homosexual people abuse some
chemical substance. Among the general population, around 10–12% of people are
substance abusers. (...) The figures are significantly similar in urban and
rural areas, among different socioeconomic groups, in the United States and
other countries – even though some differences in substance abuse do occur.
Another extensive study has reached similar conclusions. The study shows
that many lesbians have suffered from depression and mental illness:
A research team managed by Judith Badford (1994)
recruited 1,925 lesbians for their study through homosexual organisations,
healthcare centres and lesbian magazines. The researchers stated that it was
the most thorough study on lesbians done in the US thus far.
three in four (73%) of the lesbians were in therapy at the time of the study or
had previously gotten help from some sort of a mental health professional. The
most common reasons for the therapy were depression (50%), problems with a
lover (44%) or family (34%) and being lesbian (21%). 37% of the respondents had
experienced a long period of depression or grief at some point in their lives.
68% of the respondents stated that they had some sort of problems with their
mental health in the past, such as long-term depression, grief, anxiety or
fears. The high rate of depression cannot be explained only by the fact that
the society is homophobic: only 12% of the lesbians stated that they were
worried about whether or not people knew they were lesbian. (12)
What causes the above-mentioned problems, then? It is easy to say that
the cause is ultimately our homophobic society or that not all people accept as
right the homosexual way of life, but this is surely not the right explanation.
After all, such problems are found in cities and other geographic areas where
the general attitude towards homosexuality is positive. The Netherlands is one
An extensive study conducted in
the Netherlands strongly suggested that even Dutch homosexuals have more
problems related to mental health than the rest of the population. (Sanfort, Theo G.M; de Graaf, Ron; Bijl, Rob
V. and Schnabel, Paul: ”Same-Sex Sexual Behavior and Psychiatric Disorders:
Findings From the Netherlands Mental Health Survey and Incidence Study
(NEMESIS)” Archives of General Psychiatry 2001, Vol.58,No.1, pp. 85-91) This
is only one among many similar studies.
The best explanation for the
occurrence of mental health problems among homosexuals, and for homosexuality
itself, is the presence of background influences in these people's lives, in
much the same way that alcoholism, drug addiction and criminal behaviour often
results from traumatic relationships, or from loss of a parent.
These similarities have been
noted in several books including biographies about, and interviews of, various
homosexuals. We can draw some conclusions from these reports.
It is important to note that
there are no perfect parents, perfect childhoods or a perfect environment in
which to grow – not in this world. Even
Christian parents who want to follow the will of God and who love their
children can fail to some extent. This is because we are not completely freed
yet from our sin.
Generally, the following
background influences have been noted in the lives of homosexual people:
- Father who rejects them. Many homosexual men
as children had a difficult relationship with their father. Their father may
have had a bad temper, or he was aloof or indifferent; they may have lost their
father when very young.
- Other males. They may have been rejected by
other boys at school, or had brothers who were more successful and/or met
parental expectations better.
- Mother's influence. A mother who always
slanders the father causes harm. Also, a mother who separates her children from
their father and binds them to herself is harmful.
- Parents reject the baby’s sex. Parents wanted
a girl instead of a boy, and showed their disappointment for getting a boy.
- Same-sex abuse. It is common to find that a
gay man has been sexually abused by another male.
What about lesbians? Among lesbians, the most significant influence
seems to be a girl's struggle to relate to her mother; it is also possible that
the girl lost her mother at a very young age.
The following was observed in a study:
The study by Marcel T. Saghiri and Eli Robins
(1973) was not based on a patient sample; instead, they recruited their
homosexual interviewees through homosexual organisations. They noted that 27%
of lesbians and 2% of heterosexual women had lost their mother before the age
of 10. The relationship between lesbian women and their mothers had often been
broken or was distant or indifferent. However, they had a warm relationship
with their father. (13)
The quotes below suggest the same. In the first quote, Leanne Payne
describes her observations while providing pastoral care over the years. The other quotes are from women who have had
I now understood that emotional emptiness which
made Lisa especially sensitive and had caused her to easily drift into a
relationship with her lesbian teacher. Lesbian behaviour (except when it is a question
of a hysterical personality) as a sexual neurosis is not as complicated as
homosexual behaviour in men. According to my experience, it is generally caused by
the need to climb into the mother's lap that was not fulfilled at all or not
enough in childhood. (14)
I'm a 37-year-old woman. My mother left me alone
in my room to cry at night, starting when I was around 30 days old, because the
experts then said that this is what you should do after you had fed, diapered,
etc. the child. I cried every night for about two weeks, until I was all cried
believe that this has affected me strongly. I have shut my mother out of my
life even though I miss her a lot. I believe that I felt rejected by my mother
because she did not come to me when I was crying.
I don't have any recollection of my mother having held me in her arms when I
was less than six years old. I believe that our relationship was distant and
aloof. I can only remember that she used to clean and keep the house tidy but
did not have time for me when I was little. I don't remember having any special
emotional contact with my mother between the ages of seven and twelve. I tried
to please her by cleaning and doing the things she liked, to get some
I was a shy and timid child, and the bottled-up
atmosphere of my home scarred me. Even though my home was quite safe, I didn't
like my mother. I could never comprehend what they said in the Finnish song
called "Äideistä parhaimman sain" (I'm thankful that I have the best
mother in the world). I never told her anything about my life.
wanted to go next door to play, I was afraid to ask her. I was afraid that she
would be angry. So, I left her a note instead.
young girl, I wondered why some girls liked their mother and had intimate chats
with [them]. It was often very pleasant when I was at a friend's house and I saw
my friend talking to her mother without any fear. I have come to understand
that my mother had never received any acceptance or intimacy from her mother,
Still, I was attracted to other women, women who were a little like my mother
but who were capable of intimacy. When a girl I had been involved with started
to date someone else, I was jealous. I started to realise then that I was
looking [to] other women for something that I had never gotten from my mother:
a feeling of intimacy, closeness and acceptance. (16)
My mother has always been lost to me. That has
been the root cause of all my problems. I did have a mother, but I never had a
close and warm relationship with her. I don't remember ever sitting on my
mother's lap. I would have wanted to, but she was always too busy because she
had many children.
didn't want to copy my own female identity from the position my mother had in
our family. Thus, my self-image and [my] sexuality as a woman are unclear to
FEELING OF LOVE IS NOT ENOUGH. One of the justifications
for free sex at the time of the sexual revolution was, "I don't see
anything wrong with it if the two people love each other." People thought
that love is enough to justify sexual relations outside of marriage.
Homosexual relations have also
been justified by using the same argument. People say that if the relationship
is equal and the people love each other, it is not wrong. People think that
love is justification for any relationship.
Relationship with God. The problem with
this reasoning is that these people fail to take eternity and their
relationship with God into account. Just saying that pre-marital sex and
homosexuality are not wrong cannot change their sinful nature. One of the
problems King Solomon had, for example, was that he loved many strange women (1
King 11:1-4) and this caused his heart to turn away from God. Even though love
as such is a good thing, it became a trap for him.
Jesus taught us about this and
about our need to set priorities:
- (John 14:15) If you love me, keep my
- (Matt 10:37) He that loves father or mother
more than me is not worthy of me: and he that loves son or daughter more than
me is not worthy of me.
think only in terms of this life, then the perverted feelings we call “love”
may cause trouble. Human “love” does not always produce good, positive results.
- A mother's love can be perverted. A mother can sometimes be motivated
by her “love” to control her adult child and meddles in the child's marriage.
Problems between mothers and their son’s wives are also very common.
- A married person “falls in love” with a person other than the spouse.
The person thinks that this is love, and the "love" can cause him or
her to leave his or her spouse and children.
- A young couple attracted to each other have sex and as a result the
woman becomes pregnant. Later on, the boy leaves the girl. What they felt for
each other was not really love.
- A promiscuous person may think that his/her sexual relations are
driven by “love” but fails to consider the risks of STDs and broken
relationships. AIDS, for example, has destroyed the lives of millions of
- A person engaged in homosexual relations can talk about “love” while ignoring
the risk of STDs and – worse – the price he will pay throughout eternity.
Homosexuals are more promiscuous than heterosexuals, and diseases can be more
easily caught while engaged in homosexual sex (between two men).
Status of children. Perverted love can
also cause the status of children to deteriorate. People often talk only about
the human rights and equality of adults while completely forgetting children's
rights, particularly their right to have both parents. Perverted love and selfishness can cause
people to treat children like toys.
People believe that artificial
insemination of single women is acceptable (Artificial insemination can be
considered a highly questionable practice because the process destroys
unfertilised eggs. The life of a person starts when gametes merge and
fertilisation takes place.), and they think that it’s acceptable for
homosexual couples to adopt children, but they do not accept that a child has
the right to have both a father and a mother.
Two mothers cannot replace a father, or two fathers replace a mother.
Both genders are needed. The correct model of a father and mother can only be
built if a two-parent family lives together.
Several studies have been done
that suggest both parents are needed. It has been observed that there are
clearly more social problems in families having only one parent. This is an
unfortunate fact that cannot be helped. Fatherlessness, in particular, is a
(There have been some
studies done of children who grow up in homosexual families. The problem with
these studies is that their findings were only compared with studies of
single-parent families. This comparison would not show as many differences as
would a comparison of “normal” families having both a mother and father
When I was speaking at a certain men's camp in
Hume Lake in California, I mentioned that the average father spends only three
minutes of quality time with his child a day. After the meeting, one man
questioned my information.
He scolded, "You
preachers only say things. According to the latest research, the average father
doesn't spend even three minutes daily with his children, but 35 seconds."
I believe him because he worked as
a school inspector in central California. Actually, he gave me another
In a certain school district in
California there were 483 students in special education. None of those students had a father at home.
In a certain area on the outskirts
of Seattle, 61% of children live without
The absence of a father is a curse
The quote below is also about this same subject. In this quote, a person
who led a homosexual life states that he does not approve of the adoption right
of homosexual parents:
I know a lesbian couple where one of the women
got pregnant to make the couple's relationship closer. I thought that that was hideous. It is
selfish to get a child to boost your relationship. You should think about the
child. I grew up in a normal family, and if a person who grew up in such an
environment has problems, how [many] problems will a child with two mothers or
fathers have? I have argued about this with many homosexuals, and I'm
absolutely of the opinion that we should not be allowed to adopt. My opinion is
also partly due to the fact that I know so many male couples in which both of
the men are alcoholics. (19)
CHANGE AND HUMAN RELATIONS. The homosexual lusts of a person can be
compared to alcohol, drug, pornography or game addictions. The cause for all of
these is found in the way a person thinks and in his or her lusts, nothing more.
Lusts are controlling and enslaving the person.
However, when God touches a
person He can instantly remove the feelings of lust and attraction to dirty
images that are present in both homosexuals and heterosexuals. He frees the
mind from lust and disturbing thoughts. Let's look at two examples. One of the
men described below has a homosexual background, and the other a normal heterosexual
background. Both of them suffered from a similar problem and were freed from
it. Lust is always enslaving, no matter which addiction is the object of that
The following day and the days after, I noticed
that a whole lot of miracles had taken place. Homosexual fantasies that I
had had every day over the past 25 years had disappeared. I experienced such
a love towards Willa that I had not even imagined it to be possible. And what is
perhaps even more important, God was not a distant judge to me anymore, but He
had become my personal Saviour. Jesus loved me, and I loved Him a lot. It was the first
time I understood what loving and to be loved really mean. (…)
Because the healing from
homosexuality took place so suddenly, I am often asked how perfect the healing
really is. I can answer by saying that time is a proof of its genuineness and
that a blessed marriage is the fruit of it. Over the last ten years, I have not
experienced any homosexual temptations. With temptation I mean that I would
have seriously considered or wished to have sex with men. However, after the
basic healing I in a way missed having an older, stronger man in my life. Also
this has now gone, and I regard men as my brothers, not as fathers or
One day I was reading a book by Glenn Clark
when I heard a voice saying: "Would you like to live like Jesus?"
only thing I could say in response was: "Yes, Lord."
"But are your thoughts and wishes pure?"
"No, they are not, Lord."
"Would you like them to be?"
"Yes, Lord." I had fought all my life to be freed from my impure
thoughts and wishes.
"Do you want to leave all your dirty thoughts with me?"
"Yes, Lord, forever."
Suddenly I felt like a weight had been lifted from my shoulders, all the
dirty things were gone from me, and my entire being was pure and free of filth.
The door of the room opened and a young nurse came in. I followed her with my
eyes. She was a beautiful young nurse, and I thought: "What a beautiful
child of God." I didn't have the slightest urge of having an impure
Usually, the change (in the terms used by the Bible, the sanctification) is a process that takes
years and in which human sexuality is only one part. Changes occur or should
occur in other areas of life, as well. The Bible teaches of continuous change.
Consider these words written by Paul:
- (Rom 12:2) And be not conformed to this
world: but be you transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may
prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.
- (2 Cor 3:18) But we all, with open face
beholding as in a glass the glory of the Lord, are changed into the same
image from glory to glory, even as by the Spirit of the LORD.
What role does the local congregation play in helping
homosexuals? There is surely plenty of need for improvement. However, the key
to helping people change is to help them build healthy human relationships. Homosexuals need
to receive love from people of their own sex because of some unmet childhood
needs, or because they’ve suffered some kind of traumatic injury. Others may
have trouble in their relations with the opposite sex. Helping them to build
healthy human relations can make it easier for them to change.
"I believe that journalist Helge Simonnes
of the magazine Vårt Land was right
when he wrote that '”the Christian connection has been a warmer place than many
others for many homosexuals. Many homosexuals have experienced the warmth even
though they knew all along that the church frowns on homosexual relations.'
Practical tolerance can extend further within the church than in many other
circles where people do talk about tolerance but actually implement rock hard
macho-hetero sexism." Björn Helge also quotes a homosexual in a magazine
interview: "The congregation is the only place where I'm not
IMPACT ON CHURCH. Some people who have promoted homosexual behaviour
have strongly influenced the media, society, and the church. As a result, some
people – usually disbelieving priests – have become sympathetic towards
homosexuality and started to believe the information being spread by the media.
Let's examine this from several perspectives.
Congenital or emotional
deficiency? As stated earlier, in light of current research data homosexuality is
not congenital. It is a response to an emotional deficiency. If a person is
deprived of close contact with people during childhood, he or she will later
try to get such contact. This is completely natural and understandable; it
becomes wrong when sexual activity enters the picture and when lust becomes the
driving force. Merely having a friendship with a person of the same sex is not
Tendency and execution. Homosexual
tendencies are not much different from other tendencies people can have. Some
people are tempted by pornography, gambling, anger, extramarital affairs or
alcohol, and others by homosexual feelings. All of them are extremes and reveal
some sort of deficiency.
The most important question is
whether or not the person acts on his or her tendency. We are all tempted by
something; ultimately, we each must decide for ourselves whether or not to
pursue that temptation. The Bible calls this sin, and
lust that lives in people.
- (Rom 6:12-16) Let not sin therefore reign
in your mortal body, that you should obey it in the lusts thereof.
13 Neither yield you your members as instruments of unrighteousness
to sin: but yield yourselves to God, as those that are alive from the dead, and
your members as instruments of righteousness to God.
14 For sin shall not have dominion over you: for you
are not under the law, but under grace.
15 What then? shall we sin, because we are not under
the law, but under grace? God forbid.
16 Know you not, that to whom you yield yourselves
servants to obey, his servants you are to whom you obey; whether of sin to
death, or of obedience to righteousness?
- (James 1:13-15) Let no man say when he is
tempted, I am tempted of God: for God cannot be tempted with evil, neither
tempts he any man:
14 But every
man is tempted, when he is drawn away of his own lust, and enticed.
15 Then when
lust has conceived, it brings forth sin: and sin, when it is finished,
brings forth death.
Jesus' relationship with
sinners. Many liberal priests have accepted the media’s general position that all
humans have the right to be loved, but have forgotten that homosexuality is
also a sin and a lust. They only see one side of the picture. However, the
sinful nature of this activity should not be overlooked. (Naturally, God will
not force anyone to follow Him. We can all decide how we want to live our
What about Jesus' attitude
towards homosexuals and other people? Was His attitude different from that of
today’s liberal priests? We know that His attitude towards sinners was positive
because he was called the friend of publicans and sinners
(Luke 7:34). He met such people and talked with them. This is what we should
all strive for. God is not a respecter of persons (Rom 2:11), and neither is
Jesus. We should follow their example.
- (Luke 15:1,2) Then drew near to him all the
publicans and sinners for to hear him.
2 And the Pharisees and scribes murmured, saying, This man receives sinners, and eats with
- (Luke 7:36-43,47-50) And one of the
Pharisees desired him that he would eat with him. And he went into the
Pharisee's house, and sat down to meat.
37 And, behold, a woman in the city, which was a
sinner, when she knew that Jesus sat at meat in the Pharisee's house,
brought an alabaster box of ointment,
38 And stood at his feet behind him weeping, and began
to wash his feet with tears, and did wipe them with the hairs of her head, and
kissed his feet, and anointed them with the ointment.
39 Now when the Pharisee which had bidden him saw it,
he spoke within himself, saying, This man, if he were a prophet, would have
known who and what manner of woman this is that touches him: for she is a
40 And Jesus answering said to him, Simon, I have
somewhat to say to you. And he said, Master, say on.
41 There was a certain creditor which had two debtors:
the one owed five hundred pence, and the other fifty.
42 And when they had nothing to pay, he frankly
forgave them both. Tell me therefore, which of them will love him most?
43 Simon answered and said, I suppose that he, to whom
he forgave most. And he said to him,
You have rightly judged.
Why I say to you, Her sins, which are many, are
forgiven; for she loved much: but to whom little is forgiven, the same loves
48 And he said to her, Your sins are forgiven.
49 And they that sat at meat with him began to say within
themselves, Who is this that forgives sins also?
50 And he said to the woman, Your faith has saved you;
go in peace.
There is one major
difference between many priests and Jesus: Jesus never said that sin is good,
as many priests are saying today. Jesus loved people but He still encouraged
them to repent and confess their sins. There is a clear difference to the
current situation. Many liberal priests do not talk about this, apparently
because they want to be considered moderate, loving and progressive people
(Jesus also said: Woe to you, when all men shall speak well of you! for so did their
fathers to the false prophets, Luke 6:26), or because they do not
believe that our actions in this world could have consequences.
- (Luke 15:7) I say to you, that likewise joy
shall be in heaven over one sinner
that repents, more than over ninety and nine just persons, which need
- (John 5:14,15) Afterward Jesus finds him in
the temple, and said to him, Behold, you are made whole: sin no more, lest a worse thing come to you.
15 The man departed, and told the Jews that it was
Jesus, which had made him whole.
- (John 8:10,11) When Jesus had lifted up
himself, and saw none but the woman, he said to her, Woman, where are those
your accusers? has no man condemned you?
11 She said, No man, Lord. And Jesus said to her, Neither do I condemn you: go, and sin no more.
- (Mark 1:14,15) Now after that John was put
in prison, Jesus came into Galilee, preaching the gospel of the kingdom of God,
saying, The time is fulfilled, and the kingdom of God is at hand: repent you,
and believe the gospel.
"Paul did not know about
equality in relationships." One very common defence of homosexual
relationships comes from people who claim that Paul and the other writers of
the Bible were not familiar with equal relationships; they only opposed abuse,
violence and lechery.
Support for this statement
cannot be found from these verses, however; neither can it be found in a study
of ancient history. People back then certainly did know about equal
relationships, and they were not so very different from today’s people, except
that they had less advanced technology. It is sure that Paul was very familiar
with the Greek world and the social diversity present in large cities. It
cannot be any coincidence that biblical lessons about homosexuality can be
found in letters that were sent to residents of large cities.
People who make excuses for
homosexual behaviour or other lifestyles sometimes also claim that it is a
product of our culture and that Paul and other biblical writers were
"children of their own time."
We could reverse that logic:
people who make such claims are also bound by their culture and times. They
view the same information from their own limited perspective. Have they
Furthermore, they fail to note
that Paul and the Apostles received their authority from Jesus Christ, the Son
of God. Surely, the people He authorized clearly knew what they were talking
- (Luke 6:13) And
when it was day, he called to him his disciples: and of them he chose twelve,
whom also he named apostles
- (John 15:16) You have not chosen me, but I have chosen you, and ordained you, that you should go and bring forth
fruit, and that your fruit should remain: that whatever you shall ask of the Father
in my name, he may give it you.
- (Matt 28:19,20) Go you therefore, and teach
all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of
the Holy Ghost:
them to observe all things whatever I have commanded you: and, see, I
am with you always, even to the end of the world. Amen.
- (Gal 1:1,10-12) Paul, an apostle, not of men, neither by man, but by Jesus
Christ, and God the Father, who raised
him from the dead;
10 For do I now persuade men, or God? or do I seek to
please men? for if I yet pleased men, I should not be the servant of Christ.
11 But I certify you, brothers, that the gospel which
was preached of me is not after man.
12 For I neither received it of man, neither was I
taught it, but by the revelation of Jesus Christ.
- (2 Peter 3:15,16) And account that the
long-suffering of our Lord is salvation; even
as our beloved brother Paul also according to the wisdom given to him has
written to you;
16 As also
in all his letters, speaking in them of these things; in which are some things hard to be
understood, which they that are unlearned and unstable wrest, as they do also
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