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Ungochani uye kusunungurwa kubva mazviri
Chii chinokonzera ungochani, zvikonzero zvayo uye munhu anogona kuzvibvisa here? Sei chiri chivi uye kuchiva kwakafanana nemakaro, shungu uye mamwe maitiro akaipa?
Mumitsetse inotevera, isu tichatarisa kune hungochani uye mamiriro ayo ekumashure. Chinangwa ndechokufunga zvikurukuru nezvemavambo oungochani uye kana munhu achigona kusunungurwa pahuri, pamwe chete nezvinotaura Bhaibheri panhau yacho. Vakawanda vangasabvumirana nazvo, asi vanofanira kuverenga rugwaro rwose.
ZVINHU ZVINHU ZVINHU ZVINOITA UNGOCHE. Kana uchitsvaga chikonzero cheungochani, imwe yenharo dzakanyanya kukosha dzave dzekuti ungochani hwakazvarwa uye hapana chingaitwe nezvazvo. Zvakatsanangurwa kuti vamwe vanozvarwa vari ngochani uye vanongofanira kubvuma kuzivikanwa kwavo. Zvisinei, pakudzidza nezveungochani, zvave zvisingabviri kuwana kunyange chikonzero chimwe chete chokugara nhaka nokuda kwahwo. Hapana jini kana chimwe chinhu chenhaka chakawanikwa chinogona kukonzera ungochani. Zvakajeka zvakawanikwa munzvimbo iyi hazvipo. Pane kudaro, zvimwe zvinhu zvekumashure uye akakosha maficha, ayo akanyorwa pazasi, anoita seakanyanya kukosha. Izvi zvinhu zvakawanikwa kakawanda mune zvidzidzo zvakawanda uye kubvunzurudza kwakaitwa. Zvizhinji zvacho zvine chekuita nehukama. Tichavatarisa zvinotevera:
KUSVIRA KWEMURUME
Kurambwa nababa . Zvichida chinonyanya kukonzera chingochani muvarume kusavapo kwemuenzaniso wababa vane rudo uye vane rudo. Kana baba vomumwe vave vane hasha, vasingakendengi, uye vane utsinye, ikoku kungaparira mukomana kana kuti murume kutanga kutsvaka tendero yavarume, nemhaka yokuti haana kuiwana kuna baba vake chaivo. Saka, ungochani ndiko kuita zvepabonde kwekushuva baba (muvakadzi, zvichiteerana, amai) muvarume. Kana murume akava nomuenzaniso wakanaka wababa, murutivi unodzivisa kukura kwoungochani. Jerry Arterburn, aimbove ngochani, anotaura nezve izvi:
Kuwedzera kutsigirwa uye kugamuchirwa kunopiwa kumwana kunogona kukwana saizvozvo. Ngochani dzakawanda dzakataura kuti dzainyanya kuda kugamuchirwa nevarume. Kudai vanababa vavo vakachinja mafungire avo ndokupa vanakomana vavo ngwariro huru, upenyu hwavo hwose hungadai hwakaenda mugwara rakanaka. (1)
Vamwe varume. Chinodokuva chinhu chinokosha sokurambwa kwababa kurambwawo navamwe varume vanokosha, vakadai savanun’una navaunodzidza navo kuchikoro. Kurambwa uku kunogona kunyima mukomana kana kuti murume wemuenzaniso unodiwa wekuzivikanwa nehukadzi hwake uye kumuparadzanisa nayo. Varume vazhinji vakanyura muukama hwechingochani nekuti vakawana kutenderwa uye kubatana kweshamwari dzechirume izvo zvavakanga vasati vamboita. Jerry Arterburn akataura kuti izvi zvakamukanganisa sei kupfuura zvese:
Handina kuchinja kuva ngochani yazara ropa usiku hwose. Kuchinja kwakaitika zvishoma nezvishoma zvekuti handina kana kumbozviona. Pakutanga, ndaingofunga kuti ndakanga ndava kuita ushamwari nevanhu vatsva ava vaizivana navo. Ndakafarira shamwari itsva. Vairatidza kunzwisisa zvandainge ndasangana nazvo ndichiri mudiki. (…) Ndaida kuona kana ungochani ndihwo hwaiita kuti ndinzwe sezvandaiita. Ndakarega kufambidzana nevasikana ndokutanga kupedza nguva yangu nengochani yandaiziva yekuyunivhesiti. Ndakakwana muboka iri, uye vakomana vakanditora pasi pemapapiro avo sehama. Ndakanzwa kubatana kwakadaro, kwandakanga ndisati ndanzwa kunyange ndiine hama dzangu chaidzo. Manzwiro okugamuchirwa aiva chishamiso. Zvakandiyedza kunyika yeungochani kupfuura chinhu chipi nechipi. (2)
Andrew Comiskey akataurawo matangiro aakaita kunzwa chishuwo cheungochani nekuti akange aparadzaniswa neshamwari dzake dzechirume dzezera rimwe chete. Ichi chaive chimwe chezvikonzero zvikuru zvekushuvira kwake ungochani:
Muchikamu chikuru chekukura kwangu kwepabonde kwepakutanga, kuparadzaniswa kubva paurume hwangu kwaigona kuonekwa. Ndainzwa ndisina kukwana uye ndisingakodzeri basa remurume. Zvikuru zvaikonzerwa nekusanzwanana kwandainge ndaita kuna baba vangu izvo zvaikonzerwa nezvandaitarisira uye kusanzwisisa kwandainge ndaita sekutadza kwababa vangu. Kuparadzaniswa nababa vangu kwakasimbiswa nekuramba vachirambwa neshamwari dzangu dzechirume izvo zvakatanga kare muchikoro chepuraimari uye zvichienderera mberi nekuyaruka. Sezvo ndakanga ndazviparadzanisa nababa vangu neshamwari dzangu dzechirume, ndakatanga kunzwa kuda kuita ungochani. Ndaisanzwisisa mafungiro ekurwadziwa uye kutonga kwandaiita varume. Kana neniwo handina kunzwisisa kuti zvainge zvakandiomera sei kuti ndiite zvehurume zvangu. (3)
Pesvedzero yaAmai. Amai vanogonawo kuita basa mukubuda kwechingochani. Kana akaparadzanisa vana nababa vavo, akasunga mwanakomana wake pedyo zvikuru naye panzvimbo pomukwanyina wake, uye akatora mwanakomana wake somuvimbi wake, zvinogona kuparira kuvadziko huru. Unyoro hwaamai hunogona kutsausa mukomana mupfungwa, uye kana mukomana aiswa mubasa rokuva anovimbika, zvinomuomera kuti abvise kuzivikanwa kwake kwechikadzi kubva pakuzivikanwa kwaamai. Anogona kutevera muenzaniso waamai vake panzvimbo pouyo wababa vake. Leanne Payne akatsanangura izvi:
Kana mwana wacho asina baba vakasimba uye vanotsigira, amai vanodzivirira zvikuru vanochengeta mwanakomana wavo pedyo nenzira inokuvadza vanogona kuita kuti mwanakomana wavo ave nezvinetso mukuparadzanisa kuzivikanwa kwake kwevatano nekwaamai vake, uye amai vanogona kusimudzira mufambiro woungochani mavari. mwanakomana. (4)
Yechipiri inogoneka modhi ndiamai vanoraira uye vanotonga vachitsoropodza murume wavo pamberi pevana. Amai vanogona kuva nehasha zvikuru uye vachizvidza murume wavo, vachikuvadza zvikuru chimiro chomwanakomana chababa vake. Zvinogonawo kuita kuti mwanakomana ave nematambudziko gare gare mukuvimba nevakadzi, nekuti amai vake vakamupa muenzaniso unodzora uye unoraira. Rudzi urwu rwekumashure rwakatsanangurwa naAndrew Comiskey:
Nguva nenguva ndakaona kuti vanhu ava havagone kudanana nevarume nevakadzi nekuti vanonzwa kuti mubereki wechikadzi akatora mukana wemumwe mubereki. Umwe murume aitsvaga rubatsiro aisavimba nevakadzi zvachose nekuti mai vake vaive vabata murume wavo aingozvibata nekumutuka. (5)
Maonero akaipa evabereki panyaya dzepabonde. Chimwe chinokonzera ungochani chingava mafungiro asina kunaka evabereki panyaya dzepabonde. Somuenzaniso, vabereki vangaranga mwana wavo zvisina musoro nokuda kwokuratidza muviri wake achitamba nevamwe vana. Izvi zvinogona kuzoguma nekuramba zvepabonde zvachose. Dzimwe nguva, maitiro asina kunaka evabereki anogona kungokuvadza. Mhosva yacho inogonawo kuva baba vanonyomba kufarira kumuka kwomwanakomana wavo muvasikana, apo mwanakomana anogona kusanzwisisa sechimwe chinhu chisina kufanira, chine tsvina, uye chisina kujairika (panogona kuva nezvimwe zvinhu zvinopesvedzera zviri shure kweizvi zvakare). Mwanakomana anogona kuzotendeukira kumunhurume wake kuti agamuchire mvumo yevatano. David naDon Wilkerson vakatsanangura izvi mubhuku ravo The Untapped Generation:
Vana vanogara vachiyeverwa pamusoro penjodzi yekusangana pabonde vanotanga kuvafunga sevanofinha uye netsvina. Mwana anodudzira manzwiro ake echisikirwo epabonde panguva yekuyaruka seasina kujairika uye anogona kunzwa aine mhosva nekuda kwaro. Mwana wacho zvichida akadzidziswa kutya vanhu vechikadzi. Vabereki avo vamene vane zvinetso nevatano yavo vanowanzoratidzira nokuziva kana kuti nokusaziva kunzwa uku kuvana vavo. Vabereki vanorera vana vavo nemafungiro akanaka nezvepabonde havafaniri kutya kuti mwana wavo azova ngochani; zvinokwanisika kuti mwana achakura zvakanaka. Imba yakazadzwa nemafungiro ane hutano kune zvepabonde inofanira kuzadzwa nezviratidzo izvo mwana anogona kugumisa kuti heterosexuality haingori yakajairika uye yakarurama, asiwo inopa mubayiro uye inofadza. Vabereki vakagwinya pabonde vanongoziva kuti vangakurudzira sei hunhu hwevakomana uye hukadzi muvasikana. (…)
Zvisizvo zvinodiwa. Chimwe chinhu chinokonzera ungochani chinogona kuva vabereki vari kuodzwa mwoyo nekuwana mukomana panzvimbo yemusikana, uye vasingazivi vachiedza kumanikidza mwana wavo kuti aite basa revarume vakasiyana, somuenzaniso nekupfekedza mukomana zvipfeko zvemusikana. Leanne Payne anopa muenzaniso wakanaka weizvi:
Loren, murume anoyevedza, akanaka ane makore makumi mana, anga ari ngochani pachena kubva achiri mudiki. Izvi zvakakonzera kusawirirana kukuru pakati pake nababa vake, uye matambudziko mune humwe hukama hwake. Haana kuzvigamuchira, asi akadzivirira maitiro ake neshungu paaipopotedzana nababa vake. Akanzwisisa kuti ungochani hwake hwaisanganisira chigumbu uye kupandukira baba vake, asi haana kumbokwanisa kubata nazvo. Murume uyu akanga awana Kristu noruponeso zvemazvirokwazvo, asi kazhinji airasikirwa nehondo yekurwisana nekatsika kake keungochani, kusvikira Mwari vaunza muchiedza ndangariro dzake dzokutanga. Izvi zvakaitika patakumbira Ishe kuti vawane kurangarira kwaizofumura chikonzero chedambudziko. Panguva yemunamato uyu, akadzokorora chiitiko chakaitika paakangozvarwa. Akaona baba vake vachipinda mumba maakanga achangozvarwa. Kuora mwoyo kwakakurumidza kuzara mumba umu ndokumuremera zvikuru. Baba vake vakamutarisa neshungu ndokuti, "Mukomanazve!" Ipapo akatendeuka ndokumhanya kubva mukamuri Loren aive mwanakomana wavo wechitatu, vanga vachitarisira musikana. nei Loren akazoedza kuva musikana, zvakashamisa mhuri yose.Aida kutamba nezvidhori nevasikana, kwete nevakomana.Akaedza asingazivi kuva musikana aitarisirwa nababa vake.(6)
Kushungurudzwa nemunhu wechirume kana murume mumwe chete kunogona kukonzera hunhu hweungochani. Jerry Arterburn anorondedzera kuti akabatwa sei nekushungurudzwa kwepabonde, izvo zvaive chimwe chezvikonzero zvakamutungamirira munzira isiri iyo. Anotaurawo kuti vangani veshamwari dzake dzechingochani vane mamiriro ezvinhu akafanana. Mamwe mashoko anobva mubhuku romuevhangeri wekuArgentina Carlos Annacondia anotaura nezvenyaya imwe cheteyo:
Mugumisiro wemanheru iwayo waiva wokuti manzwiro angu akadzongonyedzwa. Ndakanga ndabatwa chibharo. Kana ndirini, ndiko kwaiva kutanga kwomugumo chaiko. (…) Kurwira kwangu kwakatora makore makumi matatu kwakafanana nekwevamwe vanhu vazhinji ngochani. Ndakasangana nevanhu vakati wandei vakaita seni, vakatanga kuita zvechingochani nekuti vakomana vakuru kana varume vakuru vakavashungurudza. Sezvineiwo, chiitiko changu chokutanga chakandipa ngwariro inobva kuvarume yandaishuva. Panguva imwecheteyo, zvakabvarura chengetedzo yangu yakatosimba uye kuzviremekedza kwangu. (7)
Vanhu vakawanda vakasunungurwa naMwari paungochani vakatiudza kuti vakabatwa chibharo kana kuti vakashungurudzwa pabonde vachiri vaduku. Kazhinji mashoko akadai sokuti “Uri mukadzi wechikadzi,” anotaurwa nevabereki, uye achirwadzisa mwana, anogona kuodza mwoyo kakomana. Asi kana Jesu auya muupenyu hwavo, mweya wakaipa unofanira kubva uye vanosunungurwa. Ndinogona kukuvimbisai kuti hapana kumwe kurapwa kunodiwa. (8)
UNGOCHE HWEMUKADZI . Kunyange zvazvo chingochani chevarume chinowanzova ukama hwakashata hwababa, vakadzi vane matambudziko neukama hwaamai vavo. Ndicho chikonzero chinowanzoitika chehungochani hwevakadzi. Leanne Payne akaona ichi chiri chikonzero chakajairika chehungochani hwevakadzi:
Ndakanga zvino ndanzwisisa kusava nehanya kwemanzwiro uko kwakaita kuti Lisa anyanye kunzwa uye zvakanga zvamuita kuti anyure nyore nyore muukama nemudzidzisi wake wengochani. Maitiro engochani (kunze kwekunge iri mubvunzo wehunhu hwekunyengerera) sehuropi hwepabonde hauna kuoma sehunhu hwechingochani muvarume. Maererano nezvakaitika kwandiri, zvinowanzokonzerwa nekudiwa kwekukwira mumakumbo aamai izvo zvisina kuzadzikiswa zvachose kana kuti zvisina kukwana muhuduku. (9)
Erik Ewalds akataura zvakafanana nezveungochani. Anonyora mubhuku rake ( Tahdotko tulla terveeksi , p. 94):
Pakurapa ngochani dzechirume, ndakaona kuti chimwe chikonzero chakaita kuti vave nemafungiro iwayo ndechokuti vakanga vasina baba wavaigona kuwirirana navo vachiri vana. Havana kuwana rubatsiro rwekutsvaga murume kana mukadzi kana ego yaizovasunungura. Ndave nenguva refu ndichiedza kutsvaga kuti chii chiri kukonzeresa ungochani hwevakadzi. Chikonzero chimwe ndechokuti amai vacho vanga vasiri muenzaniso wakanaka. Ipapo musikana akabuda kunokwikwidza kuti aonekwe nevarume. Saka anoedza kuzvitengera chiremerera achikwikwidzana nevarume. Handisi kuti ichi ndicho chikonzero chega chehungochani chevakadzi chinobata vanhukadzi vose vanongochani asi pane nyaya dzakadai, vakadzi vandakataura navo uye vandakawana mukana wekubatsira pakuzvitsvaga.
• Chimwe chikonzero chinoita kuti vakadzi vaite ungochani kutya uye kuvenga kwemukadzi kuna baba vake nevamwe varume, nekuti vakazvibata zvisina rudo kwaari. Zvakare, kana akamboshungurudzwa nevarume, zvinogona kuwedzera kutya kwake uye kuvenga varume. Mukushuva kwake rudo, angatendeukira kumutezo wevatano yake amene.
• Kana vabereki vakashuva mukomana panzvimbo pemusikana uye vasingazivi vachiedza kumanikidza musikana kuti aite mukomana, ichocho ndicho chikonzero chinokonzera. Izvi ndizvo zvakajairika kumashure kwechingochani chevarume zvakare.
KUITA NEZVINHU . Mhedziso yekuzvarwa kwehungochani inowanzova zvinhu zvisina kunaka, izvo zvakataurwa pamusoro apa. Zvisinei, zvinofanira kutaurwa kuti kunyange zvazvo vanhu vakawanda vaine mamiriro ezvinhu akafanana, hazvina kuvaita ngochani. Vakakwanisa kutambura nezvinhu zvimwe chetezvo asi havana kukukurwa muupenyu hwakafanana. Mabatiro atinoita mamiriro edu ezvinhu anokosha zvikuru. Muenzaniso wakanaka ndewokuti kunyange zvazvo pfambi nematsotsi vachiwanzobva kumarudzi akati emisha, vanhu vakawanda vanobva mumamiriro ezvinhu akafanana havana kuguma vava pfambi kana kuti matsotsi. Zvinoratidza kuti munhu wese anogona kupesvedzera zvisarudzo zvake. Alan Medinger, aimbova ngochani, anotaura zvakawanda nezvenyaya iyi. Anotaura kuti akanga asiri iwo mamiriro ezvinhu pachawo akakonzera ungochani hwake, asi kuti zvaakaita pane mamiriro acho ezvinhu. Nyaya yake ndeyechokwadi kune vamwe vanhu vazhinji vava kuita ungochani:
Unogona kuwana kubva munguva yangu yakapfuura anenge ese emamiriro ezvinhu anowanzo fungwa kuti anotungamirira kuungochani: Ndakanga ndisiri mwana aidiwa, vabereki vangu vaitarisira kuwana mwanasikana, ndaiva nemukoma mukuru aizadzisa zvinotarisirwa nababa vedu, uye baba vaive nematambudziko makuru muhupenyu hwavo hwepfungwa. Aisagona kuzvitarisira amene, tisingatauri nezvokuva baba chaivo vevanakomana vake. Ndinoziva kuti mamiriro ezvinhu aya haana kukonzera ungochani hwangu. Asi, mabatiro andakaita kune izvi akanditungamirira kune iyi nzira. (10)
KUCHINJIKA ZVINOGONA HERE? Sezvakataurwa, ungochani kazhinji kazhinji hwakaruramiswa nepfungwa yokuti ndohwomuzvarirwo uye kuti kuchinja hakubviri. Kunyange rudzi rusina kururama rwetsitsi rwakaratidzwa ndokuti, "Wakaberekwa nenzira iyi; unofanira kungogamuchira mugove wako." Iyi ipfungwa yakajairika inounzwa kakawanda. Asi sezvatakamboona, ungochani hausi kuberekwa, asi inyaya yemamiriro ezvinhu uye sarudzo dzemunhu. Kudai yakanga iri yenhaka, semuenzaniso, pavana vatatu, munhu wose, kwete mumwe chete, aizoguma ava ngochani. Zvisinei, kazhinji kazhinji ikoku hakuitiki, uye nhau yacho inogona kuganhurirwa kumukoma mumwe bedzi. Saizvozvowo, kana iri nhaka, vabereki navanasekuru vanofanirawo kuva vakatendeseka zvakafanana. Zvisinei, havasati vari izvi. Zvinoratidza kuti ungochani haisi nyaya yenhaka kana kuti yokuzvarwa nayo. Zvakadini nekuona shanduko? Zvechokwadi zvinobvira, kunyange zvazvo ngochani dzakawanda dzingataura kuti hadzimbogoni kana kuti hadzizochinji. Zvisinei, Mwari, akasika munhu murume nomukadzi, anogona kuporesa munhu akatyoka, nokuti ndizvo zvinorehwawo naizvozvi. Anogona kuporesa kuputsika kwomunhu uye kugadzirisa zvinenge zvaputswa mukati memakore. Munhu angofanire kupira hupenyu hwake kuna Mwari. Muenzaniso wakanaka wemashandiro anoita Mwari unoonekwa muna VaK. 6. Muchikamu chino, kunotsanangurwa kuti ngochani hadzizogari nhaka youmambo hwaMwari, asi ipapo Pauro anowedzera kuti, “Vamwe venyu vakanga vakadaro. Izvi zvinoratidza kuti vamwe vevanhu ava vaimbova ngochani asi vasisipo. Pauro akanyora kuti:
- (1 Vakorinde 6:9, 11) Ko hamuzivi here kuti vasakarurama havangagari nhaka youmambo hwaMwari? Musanyengerwa: kana mhombwe, kana vanonamata zvifananidzo, kana mhombwe, kana varume vanoita zvoufeve, kana vanorara navamwe vanhu ; 10 kana mbavha, kana vano ruchiva, kana zvidhakwa, kana vanonyomba, kana makororo, vachagara nhaka yeushe hwaMwari. 11 Vamwe venyu vakanga vakadaro ; asi makashambidzwa, asi makaitwa vatsvene, asi makaruramiswa nezita raShe Jesu Kristu, noMweya waMwari wedu.
Alan Medinger akataurawo nezve shanduko yake. Kusunungurwa kwake kwakaitika kamwe kamwe, izvo zvisingawanzo kuitika kumunhu wese:
Zuva rakatevera racho nemazuva akatevera ndakaona kuti mashura akawanda akanga aitika. Fungidziro dzeungochani dzandaiva nadzo zuva nezuva mumakore 25 akanga apfuura dzakanga dzanyangarika. Ndakasangana nerudo rwakadai kuna Willa, zvekuti ndakanga ndisati ndambozvifungira kuti zvinokwanisika. Uye zvinonyanya kukosha ndezvokuti, Mwari akanga asiri mutongi ari kure kwandiri zvakare, asi vakanga vava Muponesi wangu. Jesu aindida, uye ndaimuda zvikuru. Kaiva kekutanga kunzwisisa kuti rudo uye kudiwa zvinorevei. (…) Nekuti kuporeswa kubva muungochani kwakaitika kamwe kamwe, ndinowanzo bvunzwa kuti kupora kwacho kwacho kwacho kwacho kwakadii. Ndinogona kupindura nokutaura kuti nguva chibvumikiso chouchokwadi hwayo uye kuti roorano yakakomborerwa chibereko chayo. Kwemakore gumi apfuura, handina kumbosangana nemiedzo ipi neipi youngochani. Nemuyedzo ndinoreva kuti ndingadai ndanyatsofunga kana kushuvira kurara nevarume. Nekudaro, mushure mekupora kwekutanga ndakapotsa neimwe nzira kuva nemurume akura, akasimba muhupenyu hwangu. Zvakare izvi zvaenda, uye ndinotora vanhu sehama dzangu, kwete samadzibaba kana vadziviriri. (11)
Ngatitarisei imwe quote inoenderana nemusoro wenyaya. Inotaura nezvemukadzi transsexual akararama makore makumi matatu nemanomwe mubasa remurume (Musoro wekunyora ndewekuti: 37 makore mubasa remurume: Mwari akadzorera hunhu hwangu). Aiita semurume, akapfeka semurume uye aishandisa zita remadunhurirwa remurume. Akadzvanyirira zvese zvechikadzi mukati make uye vashoma vaiziva kuti aive mukadzi chaiye. Chikonzero chemaitiro ake ainyanya kuve mamiriro ehudiki nehupenyu hwake, inova mamiriro akajairika engochani uye vakaremara pabonde. Vabereki vake vakanga vachida mukomana panzvimbo pomusikana, uye akawana kuti aifadza vabereki vake zviri nani mubasa romukomana. Zvisinei, kusunungurwa uye kupora kwakatanga paakapa upenyu hwake kuna Mwari:
… - Ndinobva kuNetherlands. Baba vangu vaibva kuItaly uye amai vangu vari muRomany wekuNetherlands. Mhuri yangu yakaparara zvikuru. Ndaifanira kurarama nenyika yematsotsi yeRotterdam nechekare. Pazera ramakore gumi namana, ndakatongerwa kugara mutorongo kwamakore matatu nehafu, La Serpe inoudza kudaro. Nemhaka yezvinetso pamba, musikana akapedza makore akawanda ehuduku hwake naambuya vake muItaly. Vabereki vake vaitarisira kuti dangwe ravo rive mukomana. Musikana akazviona achiri mudiki kuti aifadza vabereki vake uye aikwanisa mumigwagwa zviri nani semukomana. Madhirezi, jewellery nemake-up zvaisamuitira. Luisa akadzvanyirira zvinhu zvese zvechikadzi mukati make ndokutora sezita rake rechirume rekuti Loid. Vashoma ndivo vaiziva bonde rake chairo nekuti aigera bvudzi rake, aishandisa hembe dzechirume nekuita sevamwe varume. (...) Aya ndiwo matangiro akaita Luisa kubva kuva mutengesi wezvinodhaka kuenda kuva muevhangeri. Ukadzi hwakatanga kuenzana paakatanga kupora kubva mumaronda ake emukati, izvo zvekurambwa kwehudiki hwake zvaive zvakakura. Zvisinei, zvakatora makore akati kuti asati atsunga kurega kuzivikanwa kwake sechirume zvachose kuti atarisirwe naMwari. (...) Mwari vakavimbisa kuti Vaiziva mafambiro aiita Luisa. Akavimbisa kuporesa maronda emwoyo wake kana Luisa akangodzokera kwaAri. - Usiku ihwohwo, Mweya Mutsvene akauya akandichengeta. Ndakanyatsoporeswa kubva pamaronda angu emukati uye kuva mumaoko Ake semwana. Ndakademba kuti ndakange ndagara semurume kusvika pamakore 37. Ndopandakazoshinga kurasa hurume hwangu kuna Mwari nekugamuchira hukadzi hwangu. Mukadzi murefu, akanaka anoputsika nemanzwiro kakawanda sezvaanorangarira mazuva ekare. Rwendo rwanga rwusiri nyore asi nhasi arikufara. Luisa azere nekunetsekana kunofadza sezvaanomirira kuona izvo Mwari zvaakazorongerwa naye. Pashure pokunge anaya, Luisa akadzokera kubasa rezvitangwena pakati pevanosiririsa zvikuru veFortaleza muBrazil. Anoratidza mapikicha aanozviita aine akaponeswa, aimbove mufundisi weMacumba kana kuti anonamata nemukadzi ari kuchema ane ronda rezasi nekuda kwechirwere cheshuga chisina kurapwa. - Hurombo, zvirwere, hutsotsi nechipfambi ndizvo zvinoitika zuva nezuva muzvitangwena. Dzimwe nguva ndaifanira kutiza neshamwari dzangu matsotsi aiva nemapanga omusango. Asi zvakadaro basa raive rakakodzera nguva, Luisa La Serpe anofara. (12) Hukama hwevanhu hwakakosha pakurapa nekuchinja, kune ngochani uye nevamwe vanhu. Vazhinji vane zvavakamborambwa kare kuseri, kwavakarambwa semuenzaniso baba, amai, mudzidzisi kana shamwari dzekuchikoro. (Chirongwa cheredhiyo chakashuma kuti 50% yengochani dzechiduku dzakanga dzaronga sei kuzviuraya, izvo zvinoratidza zviitiko zvakaoma zvoupenyu. Kune vamwe, nhamba yacho yakanga yakaderera kakawanda.) Somugumisiro wezvakaitika kwavari, zvakaoma kuti vazvibvumire ivo pachavo uye ivo pachavo. -mufananidzo uri negative. Vanogona kuzvivenga, kutsoropodza chitarisiko chavo uye nehunhu, asi zvakare kuve nekufungira vamwe vanhu. Izvi zvinowanzoitika zvekurambwa zviitiko uye kurambwa munguva yakapfuura. Munhu angazvisunungura sei kubva muzviitiko zvisingafadzi zvemunguva yakapfuura uye kuzviona kusina kunaka? Imwe nzira chiito chaMwari chakananga uye kubata kwake: anogona kutibata pakarepo kuti tipore kubva mukukuvadzwa kwomunguva yakapfuura; havachatambudzi pfungwa dzedu. Anogona kuita mumaminetsi mashoma izvo zvaizoda muitiro wemakore. Imwe nzira yokuporesa nayo ndeyokuva noukama hwakanaka navanhu. Kana munhu achitarisira kurambwa asi achigamuchirwa, zvinogona kumubatsira kupora uye kukudziridza chimiro chiri nani. Izvi zvinoshanda kuvanhu vose, vose vane tsika yeungochani uye vamwe vanhu. Ngatitarisei pane chirevo apo aimbove ngochani anotaura nezvekuti hukama hwakanaka hwakamubatsira sei kuzvigamuchira:
Ndakatanga nhanho itsva muhupenyu hwangu pandakanga ndichiwedzera kugutsikana semutendi wechidiki kuti Mwari vaigona kundisunungura kubva muhungochani hwangu uye kuti Aindidaidza kuti ndisunungure vamwe muzita rake. Chinonyanya kukosha mune izvi zvese kwaive kuchinja kwangu zvikoro: Ndakatama kubva kuyunivhesiti yangu yekare kuenda kuYunivhesiti yeCalifornia muLos Angeles (UCLA). Ndakatamira muimba yevarume vechiKristu, izvo zvakanga zvakaoma uye chikomborero kwandiri zvakaenzana. Ndakamanikidzwa kutarisana nekutya kwangu nerusaruro pamusoro pevarume - kunyanya varume vanoita zvechikadzi. Hasha dzangu dzekare dzakakwira kumusoro. Varume ava vaimiririra tsika nedzechinyakare, mhando yetsika yakandiramba uye yandakangopandukira. (...) Ndakadzidza chimwe chinhu chikuru uye chisingatarisirwi mugore rangu rokutanga ikoko: varume ava vose vaindida. Pasinei nezviratidzo zvose zvinoratidzira mamiriro angu asina kujairika etsika (bvudzi refu, rurimi rwakapinza, pfungwa yakaipa yekuseka), vakabudisa zvakanaka mandiri uye vakandikomborera chaizvo. Rudo rwavo rwaive rwakaoma dzimwe nguva. Mumwe wavo akambondiudza kuti ndipfidze kuzvikudza kwangu uye maitiro e-elitist (nzira yangu yekutadza yekuzvidzivirira kubva pakurambwa). Asi hama dzangu dzakawanda dzakaratidza rudo rwadzo nokundinyengeterera uye kundikurudzira kuti ndikure munaShe. Ndakashamiswa kuonana nevarume vakakwana vakadaro vaikwanisa kuda vamwe varume vakasununguka, kunyange nounyoro, pasina kana chinangwa chokuhura. Mafungiro angu kwavari dzimwe nguva aimbochengetedzwa asi ndaifarira kubvuma kwavaiita kwavaiita. Pandakanzwa ndakachengeteka zvakakwana, ndakazarura kuti ndiudze mumwe wevakomana vaiva mumba pamusoro pangu, ndichizviisa pangozi yokurambwa, izvo zvakandibvumira kuona kupora kwomukati kwandakanga ndisati ndamboona. Ndaive mumwe wavo uye ndaichida. Ndakanzwisisa kuti pakupedzisira ndakanga ndakwanisa kufarikanya rudo rwechokwadi navanhu vane mitezo mimwe cheteyo yevatano nenzira yaidiwa naMwari. Jesu akandipa ushingi panguva yandaigara nevarume ava. Akandibatsira nekundibvumira kuzembera paari uye kushandisa zvipo zvaakandipa. Kwenguva yokutanga muupenyu hwangu, vamwe vakandiudza kuti ndingave ndine zvipo somukurukuri nomupi wezano. Ndakatanga kuzviona somushandi ane simba muUmambo hwaMwari, panzvimbo pokuva ngochani “inonaya. Ndainakidzwa noupenyu uye ndikanzwa kuti ndaikosha nemidzi yangu murudo Rwake uye chinangwa Chake. Ndakanzwa kuti ndairarama hurongwa hukuru hwaMwari zvakazara, ndichitsvaga Mwari uye ndichifara mukuchengetwa Kwavo. Kutarisira kwake kwakanga kwakajeka uye kunopfuurira mukati memwedzi gumi nemisere kana kuti kupfuura yandakapedza ndiri mumba. (13)
"NDINE TENDENCY IYI". Kana tichitarisa kuti ungochani hunozvarwa here, vanhu vazhinji vanogona kukakavara vachiti vane tsika iyi uye hapana chavanogona kuita nezvazvo (takamboona kuti ungochani hauzvarwa). Vangataurawo kuti muitiro wavo haugoni kuva wakashata mutsika. Zvisinei, chokwadi chokuti mumwe munhu ane katsika kechingochani hachishamisi. Vamwe vangava nekatsika kekuda kunyanyonwisa doro, kusvuta, kutsamwa, kudanana nevasina, kushandisa zvinonyadzisira, kana zvimwewo zvinhu. Ndiwo maitiro zvakare. Ungochani hauna kunyanya kusiyana nezvinhu zvekare. Zvisinei, idi rokuti tine kombamiro yakati - ingava yomuzvarirwo kana kuti kwete - haisati ichitiita vanyajambwa vemigariro. Tinogona, kunyange kusvika pamwero wakati, kusarudza kuti mafungiro edu anotitungamirira zvakadini. Saka, munhu ane katsika keungochani anogona kusarudza kuti oita bonde zvachose here kana kuti nemunhu mumwe chete kana vanopfuura. Saizvozvowo, wawakaroorana naye anogona kusarudza kuramba akatendeka kune mumwe wake, kunyange kana akaedzwa kuti atange kudanana nomumwe munhu waasina kuroorana naye. Saizvozvowo, mudi wezvokudya anogona kuderedza havi yake kusvikira kutambanuko yakati, kungofanana nomusvuti anogona kusarudza panguva yaanoisa mudzanga mumuromo make. Mubvunzo ndewokuti tinorega tsika dzedu dzakaipa dzichitonga hupenyu hwedu here. Pauro akanyora kuti:
- (VaRoma 6:12) Naizvozvo chivi ngachirege kubata ushe mumuviri wenyu unofa, kuti muteerere kuchiva kwawo;
Betsero yaMwari mukukurira miitiro . Ndima yapfuura yakataura nezve maitiro uye nekuakunda. Pamusoro pazvo, zvinokwanisika kuti munhu akapindwa muropa nezvinhu izvi. Zvichida uri rudzi rwomunhu akatambura neungochani kana kuti kumwe kutsamwiswa asi asina kukwanisa kuzvibvisa. Idi rokuti une kupindwa muropa kwakadaro chaizvoizvo chiratidzo chokuti uri weboka rakati ravanhu. Iwe, maererano neBhaibheri, uri muranda wechivi sezvakarehwa naJesu.
- ( Johane 8:34, 35 ) Jesu akavapindura akati: Zvirokwazvo, zvirokwazvo, ndinoti kwamuri: Ani nani unoita chivi muranda wechivi. 35 Uye muranda haagari mumba nekusingaperi, asi mwanakomana unogara nekusingaperi.
Zvisinei, kana ukatambura kubva muuranda hwechivi, unogona kusunungurwa. Jesu, uyo akataura mashoko apfuura pamusoro peuranda hwechivi, ishamwariwo yevatadzi ( Mateo 11:19 ) sokumudanwa kwaakaitwa nevavengi vake. Anogamuchira vatadzi, kureva vanhu vakaita sesu;
- ( Ruka 15:1, 2 ) Ipapo vateresi navatadzi vose vakaswedera kwaari kuti vamunzwe. 2 VaFarisi nevanyori vakatsutsumwa vachiti: Uyu unogamuchira vatadzi , achidya navo.
Saka, kana uri kutambura neungochani kana kuti neimwe nzira muranda wechivi, unogona kusunungurwa kana ukatendeukira kuna Jesu Kristu. Akavimbisa kuti achakusunungura.
- ( Johane 8:36 ) Naizvozvo kana Mwanakomana achikusunungurai, muchava vakasununguka zvirokwazvo.
Ungochani chitadzo. Chinonyanya kukosha paungochani ndechokuti chivi uye kuti vanochibata havazogari nhaka youmambo hwaMwari. Vanhu vazhinji vangasazvifarira, asi rakanyorwa makore anenge 2 000 apfuura, pasina kana nesu. Mavhesi anotevera anoreva izvi:
- (1 Vakorinde 6:9, 10) Ko hamuzivi here kuti vasakarurama havangagari nhaka youmambo hwaMwari? Musanyengerwa: kana mhombwe, kana vanonamata zvifananidzo, kana mhombwe, kana varume vanoita zvoufeve, kana vanorara navamwe vanhu ; 10 kana mbavha, kana vanoruchiva, kana zvidhakwa, kana vanotuka, kana makororo, vachagara nhaka youmambo hwaMwari .
- ( Revh 18:22 ) Usavata nomurume sezvinovatwa nomukadzi; zvinonyangadza.
- ( VaRoma 1:26, 27 ) Nekuda kweizvozvo Mwari wakavapa kukuchiva kunonyadzisa ; 27 saizvozvo varumewo vakasiya zvavakasikirwa mukadzi, vakatsva nokuchivana kwavo; varume vakaita zvisakafanira navarume, vakazviwanira mukati mavo mubairo wakafanira kurasika kwavo.
( 1 Tim 1:9, 10 ) Tichiziva izvi, kuti murayiro hauna kuitirwa munhu akarurama, asi vasingateereri mutemo, nevasingateereri, vasingadi Mwari, nevatadzi, nevasina utsvene nevasina utsvene, vanouraya madzibaba nemhondi. vanamai, zvemhondi, 10 mhombwe, naivo vanozvisvibisa navanhu , navaranda, navarevi venhema, navakapika nhema, kana chimwe chinopesana nedzidziso mhenyu;
- ( Judhasi 1:7 ) Sezvakaita Sodhoma neGomora, namaguta akapoteredza, akazvipa saivo kuupombwe, nokutevera imwe nyama , akaitwa mufananidzo, akarangwa nomoto usingaperi.
Muenzaniso unotevera unoratidza kukosha kwazvakaita kunzwisisa kuti kuita ungochani uye ruchiva chivi. Kana munhu asinganzwisisi ikoku, haangatongogoni kuwana rugare naMwari ndokuwana hana yakachena. Inovharawo mukana wake wekuponeswa:
Ndinoyeuka mumwe munhu uyo, zvakare, aishanyira vanachiremba kazhinji. Akauya kuzotaura neniwo. Vanhu vakanga vamunyengeterera kakawanda, asi haana kuwana rugare naMwari. Munhu wose akati: “Ingotenda muna Mwari. Zvakwana.” Asi Ishe vakandiudza nezvenyaya iyi uye ndakashinga kubvunza murwere mubvunzo waityisa: “Uri ngochani here?” Iye akati: “Ungaziva sei?” Ndakapindura kuti: “Ishe vakandiratidza izvozvo.” "Zvakaitika ndichiri mudiki", akadaro. “Wakareurura chivi ichi kuna Jehovha here? Paunoreurura chivi chako uchapora” ndakapindura. “Asi ichocho hachisi chivi. Kurwara.” Ndakati: “Saka handigoni kukubatsira.” Ndakaonekana nemurwere. Vhiki nhanhatu gare gare akauya kwandiri ndokuti: “Zvino ndakapwiswa kuti chivi.” Ndakatizve: “Izvireururei kuna Jehovha.” Akapindura kuti: “Handigoni kuzviita.” Kwehafu yeawa takarwira mweya wake, kusvikira areurura mabasa ake kuna Jehovha. Kubva musi uyu anga ari munhu anofara. Haana kuzomboendazve kuchipatara chepfungwa. Mufaro waionekwa pachiso chake! Muropa raJesu Kristu mune simba. Mwari anopa kuzara kweMweya Mutsvene wake kuti tigone kubatsira vanhu kurusununguko. Vanhu vari muuranda hwechivi, uye shoko repamusoro-soro pamusoro paJesu harigoni kuvasunungura. (14)
Zvisinei, vanhu vakawanda vanofunga kuti ungochani hachisi chivi uye vanogona kuzvidzivirira muzita rerudo uye kushivirira. Asi zvakanaka kubvunza kuti kana ndima dzakapfuura dzeBhaibheri dzakarurama uye dzechokwadi, izvozvo hazvichinji nyaya yacho neimwe nzira here? Nekuda kweizvi, zvirevo zvevanhu vanokurudzira uye vanotsigira mararamiro eungochani zvinongoendesa vamwe kubva kuna Mwari, mukurangwa. Ava vanhu, vasina hanya nemweya yavanhu, vanozvigadza vamene sezviremera zvikurusa apo vanotaura kuti ndima dzinotangira Bhaibheri inhema. Zvichida zvakataurwa naJesu nezveavo vanouya nemiedzo zvinoshanda kuvanhu vakadaro (Ruka 17:1, 2, Onawo Jakobho 3:1, 2) Chinonyanya kukosha, zvisinei, ndechekuti hapana munhu anofanira kuenda kugehena nekuda kweungochani kana chimwe chitadzo. Kana tikatendeukira kuna Mwari uye tikapfidza, ipapo zvinhu zvose zvinogona kuchinja uye tichawana kuregererwa muupenyu hwedu. Izvi zvinobva pane zvakaitika makore anoda kusvika 2 000 apfuura kuburikidza naJesu. Bhaibheri rinotiudza zvakajeka kuti Mwari akamutuma - Jesu Mesia - nokuti Mwari akada nyika uye mumwe nomumwe wedu:
- ( Johani 3:16 ) Nokuti Mwari akada nyika kwazvo zvokuti akapa Mwanakomana wake akaberekwa ari mumwe oga , kuti ani naani anotenda maari arege kufa asi ave noupenyu husingaperi.
Bhaibheri rinotiudza kuti Kristu paakauya panyika, akabvisa zvitadzo zvenyika nokufira pamuchinjikwa. Nokuti chivi chenyika chakaiswa paari chikabviswa, zvitadzo zvedu zvakabviswawo. Izvi zvinoita kuti Mwari atiregerere zvivi zvedu, uye anotipa hupenyu hutsva pano paNyika, kana tichida kuugamuchira:
- ( Johani 1:29 ) Mangwana acho Johani akaona Jesu achiuya kwaari, akati, Tarirai Gwayana raMwari, rinobvisa chivi chenyika .
- ( 2 Vakorinde 6:1, 2 ) Naizvozvo, savashandi pamwe chete naye, tinokukurudzirai kuti murege kugamuchira nyasha dzaMwari pasina . 2 (Nokuti iye akati: Ndakakunzwa panguva yakafanira, ndikakubatsira nezuva rokuponeswa; tarira, zvino ndiyo nguva yakafanira; tarirai, zvino ndiro zuva rokuponeswa.)
KUGAMUCHIRA HUPENYU. Kana munhu akabva kuna Mwari kwenguva yakareba, anogona kuramba achiponeswa uye ave nehukama naye. Anogonawo kukurira miitiro yake, kuitira kuti irege kudzora chikamu chikuru chehupenyu hwake. Izvi zvinosanganisira zvinotevera:
Kuuya kuna Baba Vekudenga . Danho rekutanga nderepatinotendeukira kuna Baba vedu Vekudenga. Zvinongoitika chete kubudikidza naJesu Kristu, sezvakataurwa naJesu pachake:
- ( Johane 14:6 ) Jesu akati kwaari, Ndini nzira, nezvokwadi, noupenyu ;
Saka, kana iwe pachako ukatendeukira kuna Mwari kuburikidza naJesu Kristu, unogona kumuudza kuti unoda kuva neushamwari Naye uye kuti unoda ruponeso. Ruka 15 inotaura nyaya yemwanakomana muparadzi. Mwanakomana akareurura zvivi zvake ndokudzokera kuna baba vake. Izvi zvakaita kuti baba vacho vanzwirwe tsitsi ndokumhanyira kwaari. Maonero aBaba vedu Vekudenga kwamuri uye isu tose tinotendeukira kwaVari akafanana:
- ( Ruka 15:18-20 ) Ndichasimuka ndiende kuna baba vangu ndichiti kwavari, ‘Baba, ndakatadzira denga nepamberi penyu. 19 uye handichafaniri kunzi mwanakomana wenyu; ndiitei seumwe wevarikichi venyu. 20 Akasimuka akaenda kuna baba vake. Asi wakati achiri kure, baba vake vakamuona, vakamunzwira tsitsi , vakamhanya, vakawira pamutsipa wake, ndokumutsvoda.
Nzwisisa rudo rwaMwari ! Tevere, hwisisa kuti Mwari vanokuda. Akakudai nguva dzose, kunyange pamakanga musingamuzivi. Kwakanyorwa kuchinzi:
- ( VaR 5:6-8 ) Nokuti patakanga tichiri pakushaiwa simba, panguva yakafanira, Kristu akafira vasingadi Mwari. 7 Nekuti zvinorema kuti umwe afire wakarurama; 8 Asi Mwari anoratidza rudo rwake kwatiri pakuti, patakanga tichiri vatadzi, Kristu akatifira .
Iwe unofanirwawo kunzwisisa kuti zvakafanana zvinoshanda kune ikozvino kana watendeukira kuna Mwari. Rudo rwaMwari harwubvi pakuti hupenyu hwako hwakabudirira sei kana kuti wakakunda sei chivi, irwo rudo rwenguva yakazara. Izvi ndizvo zvinotaurwa netsamba yaPauro kuvaRoma pamusoro pazvo:
- ( VaR. 8:35, 39 ) Ndiani achatiparadzanisa norudo rwaKristu ? 39 kana kwakakwirira, kana kudzika, kana chimwe chisikwa chipi nechipi, chingagona kutiparadzanisa nerudo rwaMwari , rwuri muna Kristu Jesu Ishe wedu.
Vimba ! Chechitatu chakakosha ndechekuti unovimba nesimba raMwari muhupenyu hwako. Izvi zvinobva pakuti wakabatanidzwa pana Kristu (Johane 15:5). Paunenge uchiedzwa ( uye izvozvo zvichaitika zvechokwadi! ), unogona kutarisa kuna Kristu uye kumirira kuti Iye akuitire izvo zvisingagoneki kwauri. Iwe hauzove wakakwana mukubwaira kweziso, asi unogona kuvimba nerubatsiro Rwake muhupenyu hwako:
- ( VaFiripi 1:6 ) Ndichivimba chinhu ichochi, kuti iye akatanga basa rakanaka mamuri achariita kusvikira pazuva raJesu Kristu.
Saka, kana uine muedzo kana tsika yehungochani, rangarira kuti unogona kuikunda nenzira imwechete yaunogona kukunda nayo hasha, kutsoropodza, udhakwa, nezvimwe zvivi: nesimba raJesu Kristu. Izvi zvakanga zvakajairika muungano yepakutanga uye tinogona kuzvitarisira iye zvino. Iwe unofanirwa chete kutendeukira kuna Mwari uye kumirira kuti chishamiso Chavo chiitike muhupenyu hwako:
- ( Tito 3:3-5 ) Nokuti nesu pacheduwo taimbova mapenzi, tisingateereri, takatsauswa, tichishumira kuchiva nemafaro kwakasiyana-siyana, tichirarama mukushata negodo, tichivenga, tichivengana . 4 Asi pashure paizvozvo tsitsi norudo rwaMwari Muponesi wedu zvakaonekwa kuvanhu. 5 kwete nokuda kwamabasa okururama atakaita, asi nokuda kwetsitsi dzake, akatiponesa kubudikidza nokushambidzwa kwokuberekwa kutsva nokuvandudzwa noMweya Mutsvene.
References:
1. Jerry Arterburn: Kun kulissit kaatuvat (How Will I Tell My Mother), p.131 2. Same, p. 73 3. Andrew Comiskey: Täyteen miehuuteen ja koko naiseksi (Pursuing Sexual Wholeness), p. 131 4. Leanne Payne: Särkynyt minäkuva (The Broken Image), p. 46 5. Andrew Comiskey: Täyteen miehuuteen ja koko naiseksi (Pursuing Sexual Wholeness), p. 139,140 6. Leanne Payne: Särkynyt minäkuva (The Broken Image), p. 84, 85 7. Jerry Arterburn: Kun kulissit kaatuvat (How Will I Tell My Mother), p. 39,40 8. Carlos Annacondia: Kuuntele minua Saatana! (Listen to me, satan!), p. 122 9. Leanne Payne: Särkynyt minäkuva (The Broken Image), p.30 10. Roland Werner: Toisenlainen rakkaus (Homosexualität – ein Schicksal?), p.48 11. Same, p.50,51 12. Näky-magazine 4 / 2008, p. 10-12 13. Andrew Comiskey: Täyteen mieheyteen ja koko naiseksi (Pursuing Sexual Wholeness), p. 171,172 14. Michael Harry: Te saatte voiman, p. 75
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Jesus is the way, the truth and the life
Grap to eternal life!
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Other Google Translate machine translations:
Mamirioni emakore / dinosaurs /
kushanduka kwevanhu? |
